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Sexual Assault Survivors Support

Ilsa

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4. Some of us do better not telling everyone.

Reply to Chalco (Original post)

Fri Mar 22, 2013, 10:50 PM

Mar 2013

The victim may have family members who will be overprotective, or remind them of it, not understanding the healing that has to occur.
I didn't want to talk to certain people about my rape, so it was important that they not know.
And mine was a home invasion rape. But I'm sure someone would have found a way to blame me for having the nerve to live alone or something.

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In my humble opinion...I'm going to say something very radical... [View all] Chalco Mar 2013 OP

Yes, but there is nuance to being in the wrong when raped...there is the clothing..the drinking angstlessk Mar 2013 #1

I think it helps some of them LadyHawkAZ Mar 2013 #2

I have been open about having been raped since within an hour of it happening. Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #3

Some of us do better not telling everyone. Ilsa Mar 2013 #4

Thank you for your thread of power. It isn't easy for me to speak of my abuse. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #5

{{{{In_The_Wind}}}} Helen Reddy Mar 2013 #6

I tell myself that every morning while I watch the sunrise. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #7

Hey... talkingmime Mar 2013 #8

But not every victim is as strong as you are. pnwmom Dec 2014 #9

in silence we can loose our perspective olddots Jan 2015 #10