Sexual Assault Survivors Support

pnwmom

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9. But not every victim is as strong as you are.

Sun Dec 14, 2014, 02:32 AM

Dec 2014

No victim did anything wrong. But that doesn't mean they're comfortable having everything about what happened to them exposed to the public -- or to anyone. For some women, just opening up to a therapist is a huge step. Telling a loved one is another huge step, and might be as far as they can go.

So some women need the protection of anonymity. I'm glad they can have it, and can choose not to prosecute. Otherwise, forcing them to come forward would be another kind of assault.

I'm very happy for you. But we've had an assault victim in our home for more than two years and she's still not ready to come forward, despite therapy. And she may never be. Years of abuse at the hands of someone you trusted isn't something easy to get over.

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In my humble opinion...I'm going to say something very radical... [View all] Chalco Mar 2013 OP

Yes, but there is nuance to being in the wrong when raped...there is the clothing..the drinking angstlessk Mar 2013 #1

I think it helps some of them LadyHawkAZ Mar 2013 #2

I have been open about having been raped since within an hour of it happening. Ms. Toad Mar 2013 #3

Some of us do better not telling everyone. Ilsa Mar 2013 #4

Thank you for your thread of power. It isn't easy for me to speak of my abuse. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #5

{{{{In_The_Wind}}}} Helen Reddy Mar 2013 #6

I tell myself that every morning while I watch the sunrise. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #7

Hey... talkingmime Mar 2013 #8

But not every victim is as strong as you are. pnwmom Dec 2014 #9

in silence we can loose our perspective olddots Jan 2015 #10