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History of Feminism

Squinch

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20. Once that corner of the veil comes up, suddenly everything relates to it.

Reply to CrispyQ (Reply #18)

Tue Dec 24, 2013, 09:11 AM

Dec 2013

I remember being so overwhelmed by the enormity of it.

Years and years later, as my sister was going through her divorce, I watched her go through it, and was surprised that she had not realized it previously.

I think some women and many men insulate themselves from the realization, and I think that for the women it is a matter of self preservation, especially if all aspects of their lives are unconsciously built on those assumptions. For these people, once that corner of the veil is lifted, everything comes tumbling down around them.

I think that is part of the source of the anger we see in some men in response to women's rights. It is a realization of just how much they have to lose.

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"Women reading romances are being encouraged to accept the idea [View all] redqueen Dec 2013 OP

in the 70's and 80's i could agree. and a new crop of them now. but for a couple decades, seabeyond Dec 2013 #1

If women choose to eroticize their own oppression, that makes it OK! redqueen Dec 2013 #2

I'm really glad you started this tread. CrispyQ Dec 2013 #3

I was about to start one more thread and head out the door, redqueen Dec 2013 #4

if you sexualize, glamorize, use to entertain, then yes. and that is what they do today and why i seabeyond Dec 2013 #5

"Girl with the Dragon Tattoo" - yes, that was it. CrispyQ Dec 2013 #15

They didn't sexualize it at all. I think it was one of the few movies that Squinch Dec 2013 #19

I think it is possible to have rape in a story without it being xulamaude Dec 2013 #6

This is what I thought too, but I wanted to check with my fellow fems. -nt CrispyQ Dec 2013 #16

I know of several romance authors who have treated this subject historylovr Dec 2013 #8

Thank you for your post & confirming my thoughts about it. -nt CrispyQ Dec 2013 #17

I absolutely think it is. This is the experience of a third of women, and rape culture Squinch Dec 2013 #12

Great post! CrispyQ Dec 2013 #18

Once that corner of the veil comes up, suddenly everything relates to it. Squinch Dec 2013 #20

Is this a trend or is it confined to one very badly written book recently popular Warpy Dec 2013 #7

i hear that a lot, that it is simply male porn. i disagree. it is a g, pg or r rated movie. seabeyond Dec 2013 #9

I hear that a lot too, and it's just wrong. It's not porn for women. historylovr Dec 2013 #11

i had one, and excellent story. like superb in writing and developing. and you know what... seabeyond Dec 2013 #13

Fifty Shades, I think, is the exception, not the rule. historylovr Dec 2013 #10

You mean "bodice rippers"? ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #14