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History of Feminism

CrispyQ

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18. Great post!

Reply to Squinch (Reply #12)

Mon Dec 23, 2013, 02:58 PM

Dec 2013

I often think adulthood for a woman comes at the moment that she realizes how prevalent it is and how she has lived in the midst of it and never knew it. I think most of us here have had that moment. It is like what they call "the scales falling from your eyes," and suddenly the world looks very different but things that never made sense before now make sense.

I went through exactly this! It was an uncomfortable & difficult period in my life, maybe even more so for my husband. Interestingly, it was getting married that triggered it. I had not thought of writing about this theme, but I will consider it. I have three major female characters, so there's lots of potential.

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"Women reading romances are being encouraged to accept the idea [View all] redqueen Dec 2013 OP

in the 70's and 80's i could agree. and a new crop of them now. but for a couple decades, seabeyond Dec 2013 #1

If women choose to eroticize their own oppression, that makes it OK! redqueen Dec 2013 #2

I'm really glad you started this tread. CrispyQ Dec 2013 #3

I was about to start one more thread and head out the door, redqueen Dec 2013 #4

if you sexualize, glamorize, use to entertain, then yes. and that is what they do today and why i seabeyond Dec 2013 #5

"Girl with the Dragon Tattoo" - yes, that was it. CrispyQ Dec 2013 #15

They didn't sexualize it at all. I think it was one of the few movies that Squinch Dec 2013 #19

I think it is possible to have rape in a story without it being xulamaude Dec 2013 #6

This is what I thought too, but I wanted to check with my fellow fems. -nt CrispyQ Dec 2013 #16

I know of several romance authors who have treated this subject historylovr Dec 2013 #8

Thank you for your post & confirming my thoughts about it. -nt CrispyQ Dec 2013 #17

I absolutely think it is. This is the experience of a third of women, and rape culture Squinch Dec 2013 #12

Great post! CrispyQ Dec 2013 #18

Once that corner of the veil comes up, suddenly everything relates to it. Squinch Dec 2013 #20

Is this a trend or is it confined to one very badly written book recently popular Warpy Dec 2013 #7

i hear that a lot, that it is simply male porn. i disagree. it is a g, pg or r rated movie. seabeyond Dec 2013 #9

I hear that a lot too, and it's just wrong. It's not porn for women. historylovr Dec 2013 #11

i had one, and excellent story. like superb in writing and developing. and you know what... seabeyond Dec 2013 #13

Fifty Shades, I think, is the exception, not the rule. historylovr Dec 2013 #10

You mean "bodice rippers"? ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #14