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Coping with Divorce or Separation

emmaverybo

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11. My two cents is that you have no obligation. Your hands are full supporting your children.

Reply to Grasswire2 (Original post)

Fri Oct 11, 2019, 10:51 PM

Oct 2019

Aside from your children, I would think any such responsibility to notify others in your ex’s life falls to his current wife. Some people do not want to hear anything ever about their abuser.

It is very generous and caring of you to consider her feelings, but it seems to me your own and your children’s emotional well being is all you need to think of for now.

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What is the obligation to notify an ex that spouse is dying? [View all] Grasswire2 Oct 2019 OP

maybe leave it to his current wife unless u keep in touch with the 2nd one nt msongs Oct 2019 #1

Yes. enough Oct 2019 #4

Do you feel comfortable notifying her? Rorey Oct 2019 #2

Not my place to notify her. Grasswire2 Oct 2019 #5

I see no reason why they'd notify ex-wives lettucebe Oct 2019 #3

Are you on good terms with wife 3? PoindexterOglethorpe Oct 2019 #6

wife three is a nice person. Grasswire2 Oct 2019 #7

I could care less if my ex dies and I don't want him notified if something happens to me. blueinredohio Oct 2019 #8

My POV is Sherman A1 Oct 2019 #9

I would certainly want to know if my first husband, father of my children, were dying. #2? No. Shrike47 Oct 2019 #10

My two cents is that you have no obligation. Your hands are full supporting your children. emmaverybo Oct 2019 #11