What is the obligation to notify an ex that spouse is dying? [View all]

My former husband is dying, in hospice care. He's currently married to his third wife. I was his first wife and am the mother of his children (adults).

I asked if his second wife has been notified, knowing that I would not want to read about the death of a former spouse in the newspaper. She lives in the vicinity of his location. They have been divorced for fourteen years, and were married for twelve.

Apparently that notification has not happened.

What is usual and customary in that regard? He was abusive to her, as he was to me.

And wow is it complicated navigating through issues of old abuse to children and myself while children are coming to grips with saying goodbye to the abuser. I believe in mercy, but I also still watch the aftermath of his pathological narcissistic abuse manifest in my family relationships. The damage done was multi-generational.