Bereavement

Walleye

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19. 17 years ago last month. I lost my boyfriend of 30 years

Thu Jul 14, 2022, 03:13 PM

Jul 2022

Complications of heart surgery. I blamed myself the anger was debilitating. I was actually feeling suicidal for a while. I would come home from work and cry and scream all night. I still miss him terribly. Now I’m retired and alone 73 years old. I don’t cry all the time now just because I have learned how to stop. I kept reliving it I had to tell myself, stop, out loud. He was 13 years older than me. Now I’m older than he was when he died. I’m older than my mom was when she died. I am lucky I have a best friend and two brothers. I sure hope you get over it soon. I eventually just went to a doctor and started talking to her it doesn’t do much good, though. Take care of your kitties

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When do you ever stop crying? [View all] CountAllVotes Jul 2022 OP

I'm so sorry for your loss. piddyprints Jul 2022 #1

Thanks CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #3

I can't even imagine. piddyprints Jul 2022 #5

So very sorry snowybirdie Jul 2022 #2

You're crying will just become less frequent randr Jul 2022 #4

I'm so sorry. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #6

I don't think now is the time to be making a lot of legal decisions CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #15

I'm 64 and very much alone also. My cousin is my medical POA. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #21

You need to find a grief counselor. Ask for help. It's normal to grieve, but you sinkingfeeling Jul 2022 #7

Loving prayers of condolence madashelltoo Jul 2022 #8

So deeply saddened by your loss. SheltieLover Jul 2022 #9

I had an appt. CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #16

So sorry to hear this! 💔 SheltieLover Jul 2022 #18

How about trying a regular therapist? Irish_Dem Jul 2022 #33

a few weeks CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #34

Sounds like you have been under a great deal of stress for a long time. Irish_Dem Jul 2022 #37

I have to go to the doctor all of the time CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #38

Yes please check with your doctor to get some assistance. Irish_Dem Jul 2022 #39

It was so obvious CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #40

I hear this kind of story all too often. Irish_Dem Jul 2022 #45

I'm so sorry. Phoenix61 Jul 2022 #10

Hugs to you. Be kind to yourself. onecaliberal Jul 2022 #11

My condolences Tetrachloride Jul 2022 #12

I'm so sorry for your loss, kozar Jul 2022 #13

Perfect advice 👆👆 essaynnc Jul 2022 #20

I am exhausted CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #35

CAV, I am still beyond exhausted as well kozar Jul 2022 #36

I just got up CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #41

Loss is huge.. Please remember in your heart (not your brain) LakeArenal Jul 2022 #14

From our President: Bayard Jul 2022 #17

17 years ago last month. I lost my boyfriend of 30 years Walleye Jul 2022 #19

Thank you CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #42

There is only one medication that works. bluescribbler Jul 2022 #22

Consider joining a grief support group.... Jade Fox Jul 2022 #23

The biggest loss I went through was with my mother, so it's not the same. pnwmom Jul 2022 #24

My mother was put on antidepressants after Dad died CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #43

I took them for a time, at another point of my life. They made me feel pnwmom Jul 2022 #44

Virtual hugs to you. Tom Yossarian Joad Jul 2022 #25

Sorry for your loss. Stuart G Jul 2022 #26

When I joined the US Army in my 50s with no prior service (2006), majdrfrtim Jul 2022 #27

My condolences Leith Jul 2022 #28

Take it one day at a time, we all grieve differently. When you get iluvtennis Jul 2022 #29

I'm so sorry. live love laugh Jul 2022 #30

I'm so sorry cate94 Jul 2022 #31

Peace will come. I hope you find it soon. Gore1FL Jul 2022 #32

I cry very litte, but my pain is real. imavoter Jul 2022 #46

I had a younger brother that died CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #47

I'm so sorry for your loss. barbtries Jul 2022 #48

thank you CountAllVotes Jul 2022 #49