Can we talk about sex-ed for adolescence? [View all]

We all want our children, when they grow to be adults, to be knowledgeable enough about sex to be able to enjoy the experience, right? Or do we?

Sex-ed is school is a bad joke. They get some of the “what” without any of the “how”. In other words, we give them the “basics” and then expect them to “learn the rest on your own”. How sane is that? Not very.

I was recently doing a “life review” and discovered that I still (even at 66 years of age) harbor resentment that I was so ill-prepared when it came to sex. I knew where everything went, but had to experiment to find out how to best get it there and how to make the experience for my partner at least as good as it was for me. In fact, the best sex-ed I got from porn novels.

Result? Lots of nervousness and clumsiness and anxiety, all of which diminished the “after-glow”.

Sure, most schools now at least teach how to avoid pregnancy and disease, but that is not enough. My question is, I guess, how can we prepare our children so they have good sex, not just safe sex? Is it prudishness or squeamishness that prevents us from explaining sex honestly with them? How do we prepare them for good sex without appearing to “encourage” experimentation?