I agree with you. Sexual education, especially in States where Abstinence Only education is implemented, is not only a bad joke but a health hazard. In those States, you see a rise in teen pregnancy and STD's in teenagers. The solution, I believe, would be to teach comprehensive sexual education. It is an in depth education that shamelessly teaches everything about sex, including diseases and ways to help prevent them and teaches them how to make healthy sexual choices. None of this "no sex until marriage" bullshit that teaches kids to "just say no" and teaches virtually nothing about actual sex.

As a 16 year old who lives in California, whose public schools teaches a mixture of Abstinence and comprehensive (But more leaning towards abstinence) I was shocked at the lack of information that was not being taught in the classroom, but that I already knew. After going through a HIFY (Health Initiatives For Youth) workshop on safer sex, I left thinking that this is the kind of thing we need to teach in the classroom, and ditch the old conservative ignorance about the reality of teen sex.

about how kittens are made, but it was actually very graphic. Think "Miracle of Life" the feline version. The other was a video about the difference of attitude towards sex in Europe as compared to America, to help counteract the bizarre American prudishness we have going on all around us. It included many graphics of statistics proving how unhealthy our attitude is, at least as far as which nations have the worst trouble with teen pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections. (America, all across the board, of course.)

Son did not wish to watch them _with_ me, but he did watch them while I was not far away. And when he was done I asked him a few questions or commented on things so we could have a little discussion (and so I could see how much sunk in.)

They are thorough, confidential, factual, non-judgmental and co-ed.

They all talk about menstruation, body changes, masturbation, what is and is not appropriate body contact from adults and other kids, the sexual messages that they get from media/internet, what homosexuality, bisexuality and transgender mean, as well as safety on the internet.

When they are in 8th grade, they will get more age specific information, including drawings of people - disabled, older, varying body types, races, sexual orientations - making love.

The thing I really like, is that they send home assignments to talk as a family about various topics. What does family mean to us? How is our family like and different from other families? What are our values? What do we believe to be responsible behavior? What was puberty like for your parents? What do you look forward to about puberty? What are you not looking forward to?

Sex-ed like this doesn't teach values - it gives you the full range of information, and gives the groundwork for families to explore and reinforce values pertaining to relationships, sexuality and behavior in groups.

The book that we use is "It's Perfectly Normal" - and is an excellent starting point for discussion for an 8-11 year old.