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4. That's what I expect with my oldest...we've been estranged for many years,

Mon Dec 2, 2024, 02:30 PM

Dec 2

His wife hated me and I have 2 grandkids I never met. He's 30 now.

I was just saying to myself that he's "next"...and whether it helps or not it is the process and the making amends that counts. Not whether he takes it or not. I feel like I barely know him now. He's 10 years older than the other 2, half-siblings...and hated them because of their father being such an asshole. I th8ink he blamed me for that whole debaucle, when I left my ex, he was a very angry 13 year old and I had 2 babies I had to try to deal with...so my own trauma healing was put on the back burner for survival. I tried to get him "help" through many outlets, but the damage was done and I dont think we ever got back to where we were before...

But I will send him a christmas card and tell him I'm working on shit and let it go...

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Big morning, tears in my coffee...therapy at noon... [View all] FirstLight Dec 2 OP

Thinking of you. Hope22 Dec 2 #1

Take care XanaDUer2 Dec 2 #2

Vent away, First light, I can relate.. Permanut Dec 2 #3

That's what I expect with my oldest...we've been estranged for many years, FirstLight Dec 2 #4

You are so brave FirstLight! You are courageous Clouds Passing Dec 2 #5

I hope you will begin to feel better wendyb-NC Dec 2 #6

You are a good person get the red out Dec 2 #7

Welll.... Fuck. FirstLight Dec 2 #8

That is one of the worst aspects of where I am. OldBaldy1701E Dec 2 #10

I sure hope everyone gives the other a chance.... Karadeniz Dec 2 #9

Typing some words to you does not seem murielm99 Dec 3 #11

It helps! Your message was the first of my morning FirstLight Dec 3 #12