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79. I am so sorry for all you and your family members went through because of your father.

Sat Nov 23, 2024, 09:24 AM

Nov 23

I am so glad you survived his abuse. All he has done is on him, not on you. To me forgiveness is not a right--it is a gift--even if someone has asked you for it. Unless he is willing to own his guilt and make amends, in my opinion, he deserves nothing.
I do ask you to not blame yourself, however. You were not in any way responsible for his actions, especially since you didn't know what had happened to those poor animals.
You will be in my thoughts. Many hugs to you, my friend.

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I just found out today my father, decades ago, superglued a small Yorkshire Terrier's lips together as punishment [View all] LiberalLoner Nov 22 OP

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He is a Trumper, too, no shock. He also thought the torture at Abu Ghraib was perfectly fine. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #2

I am so sorry you, your siblings, stepmoms, mom, Ilsa Nov 22 #3

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This is horrible but I wish for you peace and comfort knowing you survived all this 🌺 Deuxcents Nov 22 #4

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Peace be with you. mobeau69 Nov 22 #5

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Agonizing. Be strong. Make friends with trees. cachukis Nov 22 #7

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My god I'm so so sorry you experienced this. Mike 03 Nov 22 #13

Thank you so so much. 💙. I've struggled with depression and anxiety, won't lie. I've tried to be a good person. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #21

No creature or human. deserves the treatment he gave. I think we messaged each other, YOU did not deserve the treatment. debm55 Nov 22 #15

Thank you so so much for your compassion, your words mean a lot to me and I'm sorry LiberalLoner Nov 22 #19

You and others of this abuser are survivors Niagara Nov 22 #16

Thank you. I will cry when he dies but also feel relieved. Thank you for understanding. I'm sorry you were hurt too... LiberalLoner Nov 22 #22

If you ever need to talk.... Niagara Nov 22 #53

Thank you so so much. That means a lot to me. All the kind posts here mean a lot to me too, you guys are so awesome. I LiberalLoner Nov 23 #67

You're welcome, LiberalLoner Niagara Nov 23 #76

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There are simply no words fit to print here to express my views on this niyad Nov 22 #17

Thank you so so much. Love you sister 💙💙💙💙💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #23

Love you, too. huggggggs. niyad Nov 22 #24

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The pain must be crushing but the fact that you Janeyre Nov 22 #18

Thank you so much. 💙💙 when I went no contact he was still healthy, I have since emailed him LiberalLoner Nov 22 #25

Oh my gosh Janeyre Nov 22 #31

Thank you so much. This is such a healing song for all of us who have difficult relationships with our fathers. 💙💙💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #36

Did he vote for Trump? It would make a fitting end to a life, not lived well. OAITW r.2.0 Nov 22 #27

Yes total Trumper LiberalLoner Nov 22 #29

Of course. Still. he's your dad and I hope it works out for you... OAITW r.2.0 Nov 22 #33

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Some beings are simply beyond redemption, and being told WE have to keep niyad Nov 22 #40

Yes, I believe we do have the right to protect ourselves, in the end. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #49

I agree. When my husband was told he had malignant cancer , I called my mother for support, All I got was "everyone has debm55 Nov 22 #57

I remember a little of how awful your family has been through Rich's niyad Nov 23 #63

Oh my god I am so sorry for what you went through. Those people are monsters and I am so glad LiberalLoner Nov 23 #68

A healthy response to evil Stargazer99 Nov 23 #64

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Would you let your SO do this and go back to them? Yes, they are my family . However through many years of Sexual, debm55 Nov 22 #58

Did you mean to address this to me debm55? OAITW r.2.0 Nov 22 #59

I did debm55 Nov 22 #60

None of my SO's over the years would accept this kind of behavior. I wouldn't. OAITW r.2.0 Nov 22 #62

Good riddance. May you not have to drag his carcass around with you. diane in sf Nov 22 #28

💙💙💙 but I'll cry even so. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #30

His soul energy will be very damaged CanonRay Nov 22 #32

I always knew he was damaged inside, from my earliest memories, I always felt sorry for him even though I hated to be LiberalLoner Nov 22 #38

And me when I was seven and he was home from Vietnam. My mother and older brother in the photo. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #39

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??? How is that related to this thread? niyad Nov 22 #43

He made his choices. Wrong choices. LiberalFighter Nov 22 #42

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Thank you 💙💙💙. Email from my stepsister in case anyone wants to see first hand. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #46

People shouldn't suffer like that LiberalFighter Nov 22 #54

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Did he ever pick on somebody his own size? GreenWave Nov 22 #45

Well, he went to war twice, Infantry. Got his front teeth knocked out in a bar fight in his late teens. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #47

LiberalLoner, you are amazing. You are so brave! You are a survivor! MLAA Nov 22 #50

Thank you so so much! 💙💙💙. Right now I feel like the luckiest woman on earth, LiberalLoner Nov 23 #71

I'm so sorry. The worst thing about evil people is that they contaminate our lives. MaryMagdaline Nov 22 #51

Thank you so much. I am free of him already, but sometimes I wrestle with the feelings, especially when I learn of new LiberalLoner Nov 23 #72

Hard hugs to you some_of_us_are_sane Nov 22 #52

Thank you so so much. It was hard today to learn of what my poor stepsisters witnessed, and the animal abuse. It's like LiberalLoner Nov 23 #73

Sorry. I was posting this to the thread about Musk and government waste. Sorry, cannot explain what happened surfered Nov 22 #56

It's okay! I figured it was a glitch in the system! 🤗 LiberalLoner Nov 23 #70

Your father will be repaid for all the abuses. I'm sorry you and your siblings had to go through this. Monster is right dai13sy Nov 22 #61

Thank you so so much. So many of us tried to change him but we couldn't get through to him. The only thing that LiberalLoner Nov 23 #74

A close relative of mine abused animals and other living things CountAllVotes Nov 23 #65

I forgave, really, at a very young age because I knew instinctively he was so damaged. I'm upset today because LiberalLoner Nov 23 #75

"And he is dying now." Good. Bye. n/t flvegan Nov 23 #66

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I am so sorry for all you and your family members went through because of your father. HeartsCanHope Nov 23 #79

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