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niyad

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17. There are simply no words fit to print here to express my views on this

Fri Nov 22, 2024, 07:44 PM

Nov 22

monster. May he receive everything he deserves.

You do not need to forgive him. He is indeed a monster. You do, however, need to forgive yourself for feeling even for just one second that you deserved any of that. Please know that you are loved, that you are a valued member of this community, and that you deserve a good and happy life, without carrying the dead weight of this monster with you.

Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need.

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I just found out today my father, decades ago, superglued a small Yorkshire Terrier's lips together as punishment [View all] LiberalLoner Nov 22 OP

He doesnt deserve forgivness gay texan Nov 22 #1

He is a Trumper, too, no shock. He also thought the torture at Abu Ghraib was perfectly fine. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #2

I am so sorry you, your siblings, stepmoms, mom, Ilsa Nov 22 #3

Thank you so much. I've struggled all my life with depression and anxiety. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #8

This is horrible but I wish for you peace and comfort knowing you survived all this 🌺 Deuxcents Nov 22 #4

Thank you so much. 💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #9

Peace be with you. mobeau69 Nov 22 #5

Thank you so much 💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #10

Some people deserve no forgiveness. Basso8vb Nov 22 #6

Thank you so much. 💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #11

Agonizing. Be strong. Make friends with trees. cachukis Nov 22 #7

Thank you so much. 💙 my best friends are my kitty Mr. Bobo and the crows I feed peanuts to every morning. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #12

There was a fellow from India, one afternoon on cachukis Nov 22 #14

Thank you so much! Yesterday I baked bread, today I made chocolate chip cookies for my husband, and LiberalLoner Nov 22 #20

Aces. cachukis Nov 22 #26

🙂 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #48

My god I'm so so sorry you experienced this. Mike 03 Nov 22 #13

Thank you so so much. 💙. I've struggled with depression and anxiety, won't lie. I've tried to be a good person. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #21

No creature or human. deserves the treatment he gave. I think we messaged each other, YOU did not deserve the treatment. debm55 Nov 22 #15

Thank you so so much for your compassion, your words mean a lot to me and I'm sorry LiberalLoner Nov 22 #19

You and others of this abuser are survivors Niagara Nov 22 #16

Thank you. I will cry when he dies but also feel relieved. Thank you for understanding. I'm sorry you were hurt too... LiberalLoner Nov 22 #22

If you ever need to talk.... Niagara Nov 22 #53

Thank you so so much. That means a lot to me. All the kind posts here mean a lot to me too, you guys are so awesome. I LiberalLoner Nov 23 #67

You're welcome, LiberalLoner Niagara Nov 23 #76

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There are simply no words fit to print here to express my views on this niyad Nov 22 #17

Thank you so so much. Love you sister 💙💙💙💙💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #23

Love you, too. huggggggs. niyad Nov 22 #24

💙💙💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #35

The pain must be crushing but the fact that you Janeyre Nov 22 #18

Thank you so much. 💙💙 when I went no contact he was still healthy, I have since emailed him LiberalLoner Nov 22 #25

Oh my gosh Janeyre Nov 22 #31

Thank you so much. This is such a healing song for all of us who have difficult relationships with our fathers. 💙💙💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #36

Did he vote for Trump? It would make a fitting end to a life, not lived well. OAITW r.2.0 Nov 22 #27

Yes total Trumper LiberalLoner Nov 22 #29

Of course. Still. he's your dad and I hope it works out for you... OAITW r.2.0 Nov 22 #33

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Some beings are simply beyond redemption, and being told WE have to keep niyad Nov 22 #40

Yes, I believe we do have the right to protect ourselves, in the end. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #49

I agree. When my husband was told he had malignant cancer , I called my mother for support, All I got was "everyone has debm55 Nov 22 #57

I remember a little of how awful your family has been through Rich's niyad Nov 23 #63

Oh my god I am so sorry for what you went through. Those people are monsters and I am so glad LiberalLoner Nov 23 #68

A healthy response to evil Stargazer99 Nov 23 #64

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Would you let your SO do this and go back to them? Yes, they are my family . However through many years of Sexual, debm55 Nov 22 #58

Did you mean to address this to me debm55? OAITW r.2.0 Nov 22 #59

I did debm55 Nov 22 #60

None of my SO's over the years would accept this kind of behavior. I wouldn't. OAITW r.2.0 Nov 22 #62

Good riddance. May you not have to drag his carcass around with you. diane in sf Nov 22 #28

💙💙💙 but I'll cry even so. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #30

His soul energy will be very damaged CanonRay Nov 22 #32

I always knew he was damaged inside, from my earliest memories, I always felt sorry for him even though I hated to be LiberalLoner Nov 22 #38

And me when I was seven and he was home from Vietnam. My mother and older brother in the photo. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #39

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??? How is that related to this thread? niyad Nov 22 #43

He made his choices. Wrong choices. LiberalFighter Nov 22 #42

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Thank you 💙💙💙. Email from my stepsister in case anyone wants to see first hand. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #46

People shouldn't suffer like that LiberalFighter Nov 22 #54

💙💙💙 LiberalLoner Nov 22 #55

Did he ever pick on somebody his own size? GreenWave Nov 22 #45

Well, he went to war twice, Infantry. Got his front teeth knocked out in a bar fight in his late teens. LiberalLoner Nov 22 #47

LiberalLoner, you are amazing. You are so brave! You are a survivor! MLAA Nov 22 #50

Thank you so so much! 💙💙💙. Right now I feel like the luckiest woman on earth, LiberalLoner Nov 23 #71

I'm so sorry. The worst thing about evil people is that they contaminate our lives. MaryMagdaline Nov 22 #51

Thank you so much. I am free of him already, but sometimes I wrestle with the feelings, especially when I learn of new LiberalLoner Nov 23 #72

Hard hugs to you some_of_us_are_sane Nov 22 #52

Thank you so so much. It was hard today to learn of what my poor stepsisters witnessed, and the animal abuse. It's like LiberalLoner Nov 23 #73

Sorry. I was posting this to the thread about Musk and government waste. Sorry, cannot explain what happened surfered Nov 22 #56

It's okay! I figured it was a glitch in the system! 🤗 LiberalLoner Nov 23 #70

Your father will be repaid for all the abuses. I'm sorry you and your siblings had to go through this. Monster is right dai13sy Nov 22 #61

Thank you so so much. So many of us tried to change him but we couldn't get through to him. The only thing that LiberalLoner Nov 23 #74

A close relative of mine abused animals and other living things CountAllVotes Nov 23 #65

I forgave, really, at a very young age because I knew instinctively he was so damaged. I'm upset today because LiberalLoner Nov 23 #75

"And he is dying now." Good. Bye. n/t flvegan Nov 23 #66

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I am so sorry for all you and your family members went through because of your father. HeartsCanHope Nov 23 #79

Thank you so much 💙💙💙 LiberalLoner Nov 24 #80

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