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In reply to the discussion: I just found out today my father, decades ago, superglued a small Yorkshire Terrier's lips together as punishment [View all]debm55
(38,531 posts)The dog and cat did not deserve the treatment. Very much of your story is my story. You did nothing to deserve the pain and suffering . Neither did the other kids. YOU are loveable . You are strong. Don't let your father win by making you feel you are at fault. You are brave and strong for putting up all that shit. A kid, at any age, deserves to be loved. As I said , I know your story all to well. Seek peace in your own heart for what he put you through. I didn't cry when my father died and I won't when my mother dies. You hold the truth in your mind and heart. You know that your dad was not normal.or loving. You should have no guilt for what you went though. You are loved. Some people should not have kids, Kids need to be loved and you are loved. Don't you forget that. He was not capable of loving you. And like my parents refused to get help and I owed them something for having me. You deserved better . and now the final answer is yours. Will it bother you not to care about him.I don't want to mean about your father. But he did lay the groundwork for all that he has done. Deep in your heart you know the type of person he was. I would tell him about the animals the toxcity of him before he dies. If you don't you will feel guilty . But remember you are a strong person. a brave person and a loveable person. Deb