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Showing Original Post only (View all)The Quiet Deprogramming of Trumpers Has Begun [View all]
https://open.substack.com/pub/ossiana/p/the-quiet-deprogramming-of-trumpersThe actions of Trump in the last several weeks, especially the financial devastation from the tariff war, have a lead to deprogramming beginning to happen among Trumpers. Hooray! About time!
As it starts taking hold, the author has thoughts for us on how to handle it.
Allow and encourage people who deconstructed to be on the right side of history.
Yes, it will take time to fully trust them. No, that doesnt mean you should judge them and make them feel less than as a result. The worst thing you can do is continually bring up the past with them.
A lot of people who are deconstructing will feel shoved out and return back to the GOP if they feel like they can never live it down, so do what you can to limit that kind of speech.
Yes, we know that the tears were seeing from them is all about themselves. It burns that theyre only angry when it affects them, but its important to focus on what those tears are starting. That can be the first step to finding the empathy they may have lost or never had to begin with.
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You might be surprised at how many people are just afraid to talk because of the shame they feel. The GOP is banking on the left being intolerant of former right-wingers to keep their death grip on people. Dont let them win.
Yes, it will take time to fully trust them. No, that doesnt mean you should judge them and make them feel less than as a result. The worst thing you can do is continually bring up the past with them.
A lot of people who are deconstructing will feel shoved out and return back to the GOP if they feel like they can never live it down, so do what you can to limit that kind of speech.
Yes, we know that the tears were seeing from them is all about themselves. It burns that theyre only angry when it affects them, but its important to focus on what those tears are starting. That can be the first step to finding the empathy they may have lost or never had to begin with.
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You might be surprised at how many people are just afraid to talk because of the shame they feel. The GOP is banking on the left being intolerant of former right-wingers to keep their death grip on people. Dont let them win.
The GOP is banking on the left being intolerant of former right-wingers to keep their death grip on people. Dont let them win.
Thats going to be tough. But the full article helped me realize that there are things I can do and say that are honest about my feelings while making no it possible for them to continue to deprogram.
I havent seen my two Trumper sons in a while, but we will be getting together in a few weeks. I am so curious about whether theyve budged at all. But its going to have to be a very careful approach. Im saving this article so I can remember it for then.
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That's a tough pill to swallow considering they are more likely upset about their money but not about anything else.
chowder66
Apr 2025
#1
I think I can be coolly polite when trumper relatives/acquaintances engage me, but I won't engage them.
CrispyQ
Apr 2025
#30
At this point I can't see much reason to care whether they love Trump or hate him. The damage has already
Vinca
Apr 2025
#3
I don't mind if they are afraid to talk about it, as long as they feel shame that changes their behaviour.
Bev54
Apr 2025
#13
Yes. Crushed magas need to learn. Teach them. See my post #20. . . . . nt
Bernardo de La Paz
Apr 2025
#22
Here's the problem. They have a button that can be pushed that will lead them down the same path.
Baitball Blogger
Apr 2025
#17
Thank you BdLP - that is a rich post that will take some time to digest properly.
erronis
Apr 2025
#29
Novel as they may be, seize all opportunities for communication. . . nt
Bernardo de La Paz
Apr 2025
#31
Your post shows a preference for a surface analysis. It is understandable, but not productive or effective.
Bernardo de La Paz
Apr 2025
#37
You showed us the surface that we know so well. I tried deeper analysis. And you proposed no solutions
Bernardo de La Paz
Apr 2025
#48
Thanks. That explains it, and I'm sorry about your traumatic experiences. I wish you well. . . .nt
Bernardo de La Paz
Apr 2025
#69
Fair post. My take is that it is the same belief system +1, but the perceptions and reasoning are different
Bernardo de La Paz
Apr 2025
#70
I'm wondering whether the one MAGA cultist in my band is still in love with trump.
mwb970
Apr 2025
#21
While I agree we should welcome those who have "seen the light", I wouldn't trust them until they prove they can change.
HeartsCanHope
Apr 2025
#28
I married an (ex) evangelical and we shared some good times - until she found her bejesus again.
erronis
Apr 2025
#34
People have a need for direction and a certain amount of control of the world around them. Unfortunately
chowder66
Apr 2025
#43
I suspect most of them will never vote for D. They're still going to vote for R but just another one.
Meowmee
Apr 2025
#54
In trying to imagine my own reaction if the enormity of my mistake was beginning to hit me but I
summer_in_TX
Apr 2025
#67