General Discussion

She took her husband's name at first but found that people immediately treated her like she was second fiddle to him, ie. "the wife." Even to the point of looking to him to be the decider in everything. She changed back to her maiden name solely because of the way she was being treated. She's a science researcher. He is in science also and is fine with it. But people should be allowed to have the name they want. I guess you could call it a "marriage penalty."

Whatever people decide is their legal name should not be questioned by anyone. Take spouse's name, or don't-- really nobody's biz. It's a custom, not a requirement. Other countries do it differently.