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End of Life Issues

In reply to the discussion: Relief at the diagnosis [View all]

Frances

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5. My thoughts are with you
Thu Apr 13, 2017, 11:53 AM
Apr 2017

My husband died of cancer last July nearly two years after the first signs of the disease. Dying was a challenge for him and for me as his caregiver.
I don't know if Canada has Hospice. It's very helpful in the U.S. during the dying process. A person is eligible for this service if the expected life expectancy is 6 months or less.
The caregiver has full responsibility for the dying person and must be present when Hospice people come to the house. But Hospice will send out equipment like a hospital bed, a bedside tray and toilet, and a walker for the duration. It will also send out an aide to bathe the dying person (while the caregiver is present) two or three times a week. Hospice provides a nurse visit once a week to check the dying person's vitals just so everyone knows what's going on. The nurse orders Rx that are related to the dying process like pain and anxiety meds.
The thing I found most helpful after my husband died was a drop in grief support group. It is very comforting to me to be with people who have gone through this experience. There was also a caregivers support group.

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Relief at the diagnosis [View all] GliderGuider Apr 2017 OP
Best of luck safeinOhio Apr 2017 #1
Thank you for posting this. PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 2017 #2
She is courageous and so are you. Peace Lint Head Apr 2017 #3
Warm wishes, GliderGuider True Dough Apr 2017 #4
My thoughts are with you Frances Apr 2017 #5
I hope you find some joy in her remaining time n2doc Apr 2017 #6
... progressoid Apr 2017 #7
Aside from our love CountAllVotes Apr 2017 #8
Spend what little time you have together in peace now knowing the diagnosis lunasun Apr 2017 #9
Wow. I'm a little overwhelmed. Thank you all. GliderGuider Apr 2017 #10
Your amazing love ... auntAgonist Apr 2017 #41
I'm in Ottawa, where Canadian tax dollars come to die... GliderGuider Apr 2017 #42
Isn't that the truth :) My family is all in Ontario too. K-W Cambridge / Woodstock area. auntAgonist Apr 2017 #43
I grew up in London. GliderGuider Apr 2017 #44
K&R. Blessings and Peace to you, and to your wife. ms liberty Apr 2017 #11
I'm glad she's finding comfort in her decision; your love babylonsister Apr 2017 #12
I integrated this with the OP. it belonged there. GliderGuider Apr 2017 #13
My thoughts are with you and your wife chia Apr 2017 #14
My heart goes out to you both, GliderGuider. brer cat Apr 2017 #15
THank you for posting such a heartfelt message. I hope you continue to come here for support and Amaryllis Apr 2017 #16
Profound food for thought, I wish you both peaceful passage. joanbarnes Apr 2017 #17
I wish the two of you peace and love... onecaliberal Apr 2017 #18
I value your enlightening perspective so much. retrowire Apr 2017 #19
Wishing you both peace Granny M Apr 2017 #20
Build the memories to last the rest of your journey while she remains in it with you. Moostache Apr 2017 #21
This is where the rubber meets the road grantcart Apr 2017 #22
My friend and coworker was diagnosed with Mesothelioma at 45. TNNurse Apr 2017 #23
Thoughts for a good, peaceful journey. ananda Apr 2017 #24
Peace to you, GliderGuider and your wife. gademocrat7 Apr 2017 #25
Best wishes and keep us updated Fast Walker 52 Apr 2017 #26
You are about to meet some of the nicest people in the world, through Hospice. planetc Apr 2017 #27
Love to both of you wryter2000 Apr 2017 #28
May you keep on finding the peace you need. Love is all applegrove Apr 2017 #29
There are no words worth saying, but human to human, I wish you both procon Apr 2017 #30
big hugs barbtries Apr 2017 #31
It is the hardest and best thing you can do. oldcynic Apr 2017 #32
Sending positive thoughts your way DownriverDem Apr 2017 #33
May peace be with you both and love light the path you walk together. Silver Gaia Apr 2017 #34
You are providing a truly inspiring roadmap AwakeAtLast Apr 2017 #35
someone is always here on DU for you, GliderGuider Skittles Apr 2017 #36
Mild vaginal bleeding, mainly. GliderGuider Apr 2017 #37
That's why they call ovarian cancer the silent killer. GliderGuider Apr 2017 #38
my mum, when she passed Skittles Apr 2017 #39
I think they can treat her with needle and suction drainage. GliderGuider Apr 2017 #40
A month later... GliderGuider May 2017 #45
Your story is filled with so much love, respect and courage that moonscape Jun 2017 #46
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