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Elder-caregivers

RainCaster

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2. My mom asked us when her father was coming to visit

Reply to NurseJackie (Original post)

Fri Nov 29, 2019, 12:42 PM

Nov 2019

We always told her tomorrow. It upset her when we would tell her that her dad died, but she would quickly get over it, and ask again. We decided that it was more humane to let her delusions go and not correct her.

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Should a loved-one who has dementia be corrected when they are wrong about something? [View all] NurseJackie Nov 2019 OP

Hugs to you and sister TEB Nov 2019 #1

My mom asked us when her father was coming to visit RainCaster Nov 2019 #2

My experience is to go along with their misapprehensions. no_hypocrisy Nov 2019 #3

I think it depends on the moment. For example, femmedem Nov 2019 #4

Thank you. This was helpful. NurseJackie Feb 2020 #21

Not an expert SallyHemmings Nov 2019 #5

My mother has advanced Alzheimer's and I say absolutely do not correct lettucebe Nov 2019 #6

I agree. 3Hotdogs Nov 2019 #11

I agree do not correct them. blueinredohio Nov 2019 #13

I remind my mom that she IS home, pnwest Nov 2019 #7

My wife facilitates an Alzheimer's Support Group Dave in VA Nov 2019 #8

Unfortunately I have dealt with this. DURHAM D Nov 2019 #9

Beautiful, tender story. She continued teaching you wisdom about being present in the moment. JudyM Dec 2019 #15

THANK YOU, EVERYONE... for sharing your suggestions and experiences. NurseJackie Nov 2019 #10

Side topic. Bring them dolls. Men and women both enjoy dolls. 3Hotdogs Nov 2019 #12

My grandmother thought I was her daughter - alittlelark Nov 2019 #14

Play it by ear. JudyM Dec 2019 #16

Thank you for the feedback. NurseJackie Dec 2019 #17

Sure... it was a labor of love... JudyM Dec 2019 #18

I work with the elderly... Trueblue Texan Jan 2020 #19

I very much appreciate your insights and comments... NurseJackie Jan 2020 #20