Elder-caregivers

PJMcK

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28. Very sad to hear of your loss

Wed May 8, 2019, 06:10 PM

May 2019

Your love for your father is patently clear from your post. Clearly, he loved and trusted you. Draw your strength from that knowledge.

I've been through the executorship for a deceased friend and his nephew and nieces have been nothing but pains in the ass. My suggestion is to lawyer up. Tell your attorney that you expect them to play hardball and use every legal tactic to fend off your siblings. Your father deserves nothing less than 100%.

Remember, it isn't personal, it's business. It sounds like your sister is trying to "steal the coins from the eyes of the dead." Don't let it happen! The estate should be handled as directed by your father. Your lawyer will see to that.

My best wishes to you in this time of loss. I'm so sorry you have to deal with family troubles at this time. Be strong, samnsara.

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my dad just passed. at 9:40 am today :( My two sisters are trying to challange my executorship.. [View all] samnsara Apr 2019 OP

Death of a parent often brings out the worst in their progeny. stopbush Apr 2019 #1

My condolences. Let the lawyer handle the probate. I expect your sisters will rzemanfl Apr 2019 #2

Oh samansara, so sorry for your loss. What a great life he had. NT enough Apr 2019 #3

thank you all for your condolences. I wasn't able to get back to post my thank yous... samnsara May 2019 #19

I am so sorry for your loss! Siwsan Apr 2019 #4

My dad died out of the blue 4 weeks ago today. BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #5

My condolences on your loss. No words are ever adequate but, FWIW, I am sure a lot of us here alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #9

Thank you. Everyone who has responded has been very kind. BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #11

Been there. It really helps to have someone nearby to hold your hand and sit with you. No words are alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #13

Don't be fooled... BigmanPigman Apr 2019 #15

I think I have an idea about Cancers as I am married to one. Anyway, I hope you find a measure of alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #16

Im so sorry! At least I was able to say good bye to my dad :( samnsara May 2019 #20

Thank you. BigmanPigman May 2019 #24

I'm so sorry about your dad Ohiogal Apr 2019 #6

So sorry for you, Samnsara, and Bigman Bayard Apr 2019 #7

My heart goes out to you samnsara. I had a similar antagonistic situation when my mother died. alwaysinasnit Apr 2019 #8

Best of luck Sherman A1 Apr 2019 #10

I wish we knew you could do that ... Blue_playwright May 2019 #39

Terribly sorry to hear that things turned out as they did for your husband's family Sherman A1 May 2019 #40

Mom passed last month, Dad two years ago Dr Vegas Apr 2019 #12

was it even legal for your relatives to go in and take stuff? samnsara May 2019 #21

So sorry to hear that. 2naSalit Apr 2019 #14

If accounts were closed where did the money go? lettucebe Apr 2019 #17

my lawyer has it in probate now...we had him on a retainer for other business we did with him.. samnsara May 2019 #22

Condolences samsara. Sounds like you need that lawyer. Cleaned out the accounts? Terrible lunasun Apr 2019 #18

thank you samnsara May 2019 #23

My condolences MissMillie May 2019 #25

Forever in your heart, samnsara.....nt Heartstrings May 2019 #26

This message was self-deleted by its author sfwriter May 2019 #27

Very sad to hear of your loss PJMcK May 2019 #28

Let your dad's love sustain you through a most difficult time..you have friends at DU who asiliveandbreathe May 2019 #29

Get advice from responsible eldercare law firm. delisen May 2019 #30

My condolences for your your loss. awesomerwb1 May 2019 #31

They literally waited until the eleventh hour? Very sad for your Dad and you. IADEMO2004 May 2019 #32

Kids fight like vultures when parents pass at140 May 2019 #33

Sorry for your loss TEB May 2019 #34

If he died that close to the guardianship order and they did what you say you might be able in2herbs May 2019 #35

Sorry about your loss KT2000 May 2019 #36

I am so sorry. dewsgirl May 2019 #37

I am sorry to read your story samnsara. madaboutharry May 2019 #38

They can't change his Will, you're safe on that front, anyway. JudyM Jun 2019 #41

Strength to you... I'm very sorry this is happening. NurseJackie Aug 2019 #42