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Elder-caregivers

Doodley

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12. I am sorry to hear that about your father. I hope they take good care of him.

Reply to gwheezie (Reply #9)

Thu Mar 16, 2017, 11:23 PM

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trying to help/deal with, my almost 99 YO father... [View all] Alameda Mar 2017 OP

Have you tried looking into the COPES MFM008 Mar 2017 #1

thank you, I will do that...but... Alameda Mar 2017 #3

This message was self-deleted by its author Maru Kitteh Dec 2018 #34

That's a Washington State Medicaid program. nt marybourg Mar 2017 #5

Yes MFM008 Mar 2017 #27

How about if you offer to do their shopping/banking for them? marybourg Mar 2017 #2

tried that...no way will he accept it. Alameda Mar 2017 #6

Well then you may just have to wait it out. marybourg Mar 2017 #11

Great advice Rorey Mar 2017 #13

He is obviously stubborn, but what a guy! 99 and he's still able to pay his bills, drive a car and Doodley Mar 2017 #14

Yes he is strong, very strong... Alameda Mar 2017 #17

I am sorry to hear that. I have been through it myself. Do they have any means Doodley Mar 2017 #19

Yes, they have means....but don't want to spend it. Alameda Mar 2017 #21

Yes there are advantages to being a vet, but does he have any diagnosed illnesses that Doodley Mar 2017 #23

He gets belligerent Alameda Mar 2017 #24

Anger feels like power ginnyinWI Mar 2017 #28

Been there Rorey Mar 2017 #4

This is the internet and I'm a stranger tirebiter Mar 2017 #7

Life is terminal Rorey Mar 2017 #10

Do they have any money or equity? If so, maybe assisted living or a retirement home Doodley Mar 2017 #8

We just put my dad in hospice gwheezie Mar 2017 #9

I am sorry to hear that about your father. I hope they take good care of him. Doodley Mar 2017 #12

thank you for your response Alameda Mar 2017 #18

It's a huge relief gwheezie Mar 2017 #22

the worst thing is not knowing how long... ginnyinWI Mar 2017 #29

So sorry for your situation. I know it must be difficult. 58Sunliner Mar 2017 #15

Hang in there 🙂 Snackshack Mar 2017 #16

My father had in home hospice care during his last years with dementia Freethinker65 Mar 2017 #20

Get power of attorney asap tirebiter Mar 2017 #25

He won't give it to me Alameda Jul 2018 #32

You are in an impossible situation. PoindexterOglethorpe Mar 2017 #26

I can identify with your situation. cpamomfromtexas Mar 2017 #30

Everyone thank you for your sympathy and advice.... Alameda Mar 2017 #31

My stepmother passed away Alameda Jul 2018 #33

Hello Alameda. narnian60 Dec 2018 #35

adult protective services can actually help... Trueblue Texan Jan 2020 #36