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Elder-caregivers

WheelWalker

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3. It's not about you. Remember that.

Reply to LudwigPastorius (Original post)

Fri Feb 7, 2025, 02:51 AM

Feb 7

I did what you are doing for the same length of time. I know exactly what you're experiencing. Laughing off the abuse was helpful in my instance. Reply, "Well you didn't. So here we are. Now let's cowboy up and bring this herd to market."

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My mom said the worst thing she's ever said to me. [View all] LudwigPastorius Feb 7 OP

This message was self-deleted by its author Sector 001 Feb 7 #1

Pretty damn judgmental NoRethugFriends Feb 7 #5

Maybe her dx has something to do with the verbal abuse? SheltieLover Feb 7 #2

Good idea about the meds. LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #11

In the meantime, we are here for you SheltieLover Feb 7 #18

Thanks so much, SheltieLover. LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #20

YW! SheltieLover Feb 8 #23

It's not about you. Remember that. WheelWalker Feb 7 #3

I didn't take the bait. LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #6

Coming up on 7 years for me MotownPgh Feb 7 #9

Yeah, I didn't engage with her after that. LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #12

If she has dementia, then you need to deal with it, or she needs to be in a facility. NoRethugFriends Feb 7 #4

No cognitive impairment, she's just spiteful at times. LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #13

I'm sorry. I know that hurt you.nt Trueblue Texan Feb 7 #7

Thanks. LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #14

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Feb 7 #8

Thanks XanaDUer2 LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #15

Maybe she is depressed and would do better with some meds to make her happier. applegrove Feb 7 #10

I know she's having a hard time, but I doubt she... LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #16

That is so hard. applegrove Feb 7 #17

I'm sorry you had to experience that LP Clouds Passing Feb 7 #19

Thanks LudwigPastorius Feb 7 #21

That was a very crappy thing for her to say to you, very crappy! Clouds Passing Feb 7 #22

So sorry you are on the,receiving end Fresh_Start Feb 14 #24

Yeah, nobody knows which buttons to push like family. LudwigPastorius Feb 14 #25

I'm sorry you're going through this Laurelin Feb 14 #26

Thanks. LudwigPastorius Feb 14 #27

Ask her if she would prefer a nursing home... 1monster Feb 14 #28

You are not alone... Mike Nelson Feb 14 #29

It sounds like she needs a visit to respite care. Hope22 Feb 14 #30

Ouch😣 1WorldHope Feb 14 #31