Elder-caregivers

rough periods with our mom. I'm sorry to hear of your problems. These are not easy situations, and family should come together for the best of the person involved... but that seems to be the opposite in too many cases.

Like you, my sister and I split the powers between each other, but with the understanding that, unless it's an emergency the one will contact the other to run the solution by them before doing anything. It's worked well up til now. Mom lived with me and my hubby for a few years, but we never got help from my brother. Sis would take Mom for a weekend, or special nights when she didn't have to work the next day. We just keep the coms with my brother down to the absolute minimum and make our own decisions, since we're also pitching in money for her memory care.