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Warpy

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21. No advice,just be aware that your mom will likely change quite a bit
Thu Mar 16, 2023, 11:57 PM
Mar 2023

when she doesn't recognize her surroundings any more, her anxiety is likely to surface. I hope the facility has areas for people to walk while not getting lost, wandering is one way Alzheimper's patients deal with anxiety.

Don't beat yourself up about this. In the first place, we can only do what we can do and you've hung in there longer than many. Second, not recognizing her surroundings would happen wherever she is, such is the nature of that awful disease.

I hope her transition is a smooth one for both your sakes, so you can relax and enjoy her while she's still there to enjoy.

And yes, sleep deprivation can mess with your head more than you think, and it won't do either of you any good unless you manage to correct that, which is not going to happen while she's living with you. You will miss her in many ways, but not that one.

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I would check to see if the care facility mercuryblues Mar 2023 #1
Thank you leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #5
Sending vibes for best possible outcome for both of you. Here if you need us. niyad Mar 2023 #2
I cannot take time off leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #7
& thanks for the kind words leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #10
You are most welcome. Do not hesitate to lean on your DU family. Many have niyad Mar 2023 #14
Expect to allow many months to decompress. vanlassie Mar 2023 #3
Sound advice leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #8
IMO this is the best advice that can be given. Heed it! nt in2herbs Mar 2023 #22
Look for drmeow Mar 2023 #4
Thank you! leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #9
I think that's emotional and physical exhaustion. Phoenix61 Mar 2023 #6
I figured exhaustion leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #11
I Faux pas Mar 2023 #12
That's so long! leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #15
Please do not take this in a negative light, UpInArms Mar 2023 #13
I ran across that leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #16
My only advice is: you MUST take care of yourself. LoisB Mar 2023 #17
Healing vibes on the way! 💓💓💓 SheltieLover Mar 2023 #18
Thank you! leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #33
If you haven't done so already, call your county Bar Association for referrals to Elder Law attorney 3Hotdogs Mar 2023 #19
The attorney leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #28
Article below has information about Medicade and state programs for caregivers. pazzyanne Mar 2023 #20
No advice,just be aware that your mom will likely change quite a bit Warpy Mar 2023 #21
The facility leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #32
Well, she might want to be combative, but it sounds like she won't be any good at it Warpy Mar 2023 #36
Agree leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #37
We were able to make my Mom's room look a lot like her space in senior living. Hope22 Mar 2023 #23
Thank you leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #30
Take care and know that you are on the right path. Hope22 Mar 2023 #31
Don't do it? Just an option. My mom had my dad Laura PourMeADrink Mar 2023 #24
you have done your best, and you are STILL doing what is best for her Skittles Mar 2023 #25
Take care of yourself. Feel no guilt. sprinkleeninow Mar 2023 #26
Ah leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #29
Look up this: "compassion fatigue". 7wo7rees Mar 2023 #27
Right leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #34
Believe it or not, "compassion fatigue" and "burnout" are different. 7wo7rees Mar 2023 #35
Thanks leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #38
Sorry, was out all day. Absolutely ok to DM me. Ms7wo7rees 7wo7rees Mar 2023 #39
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