Elder-caregivers

Caregiving is one of the most taxing, exhausting, stressful and financially draining things anyone can undertake. If you’re caring for someone you love and trust it can be worth it. Or maybe if you have deep reserves of energy and resources. But not in this case. Bringing him in would have untold negative effects on your health and your strength.

This is not your responsibility. He can find counseling and advice through his own community social services. You don’t have to explain or convince him. He’s not rational or honest.

Can you find friends, neighbors or associates to talk with who will understand and support you? It’s hard to keep a resolve like this in isolation. Maybe some community services would be useful to you?

Do not get into “triangulating” with the daughter who won’t speak to you. If he comes into your home, it will not be temporary.