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Elder-caregivers

3Hotdogs

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1. YOU are responsible for how he is enabled to control you.

Reply to bucolic_frolic (Original post)

Wed Jul 21, 2021, 08:15 AM

Jul 2021

Either tell him to fuck off or give him terms to follow with understanding that you will not support him if the terms are not followed. But I expect you will set terms and then relent when he stops complying.

YOU are not responsible for any of the shit he is in.

Read books on tough love. They deal with kids and drugs but apply to any abusive relationship. That is what you are in... an abusive relationship with a spoiled adult brat.

So either continue to coddle him and feel abused or do something about it.

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YOU are responsible for how he is enabled to control you. 3Hotdogs Jul 2021 #1

For your own sake, and peace of mind, I would suggest that you contact a counsellor niyad Jul 2021 #2

Keep strong in your resolve NOT to allow him into your home and your life. enough Jul 2021 #3

Yes, thank you bucolic_frolic Jul 2021 #4

That sounds like a good call to make. NT enough Jul 2021 #5