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Sexual Assault Survivors Support

MattNC2021

(42 posts)

4. "I love you. I'm here for you."

Reply to murielm99 (Original post)

Thu Jun 20, 2024, 12:01 PM

Jun 2024

That's the best thing to say. Be available to chat if they want or provide a distraction if they want to. Let them lead the way.

Don't ask "how are you"...because you might not be prepared for what you hear.

(I'm speaking from the perspective of a husband who lost his wife to cancer. I felt the need to train friends on how to talk to me.)

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One of my friends was just sexually assaulted. [View all] murielm99 Jun 2024 OP

Be 'there' for her; elleng Jun 2024 #1

Ask her. Ask her what she needs and wants right now. Irish_Dem Jun 2024 #2

I found some helpful articles usonian Jun 2024 #3

"I love you. I'm here for you." MattNC2021 Jun 2024 #4

Is there a rape crisis center in your area? thucythucy Jun 2024 #5

Thank you, everyone for your help. murielm99 Jun 2024 #6

As a survivor, I will say sometimes we just want a smile or nod of acknowledgment. Behind the Aegis Jun 2024 #8

Make yourself available Bayard Jun 2024 #7