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Sexual Assault Survivors Support

Behind the Aegis

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4. Counseling helps. But...

Reply to angstlessk (Reply #2)

Fri Mar 22, 2013, 09:41 PM

Mar 2013

...you have to find one YOU like and makes YOU feel comfortable. It doesn't matter if others like him/her. Talking it out helps. Everyone has a different way of responding and adjusting to the violation.

"I did drink, so I have some responsibility." No, no you really don't. What was done to you was a violation that in no way was your responsibility. It is a shame you didn't have the support you needed then, and it may have been/be a reason the healing is incomplete or difficult.

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Man, you people are dredging up all this crap... [View all] angstlessk Mar 2013 OP

Thank you for stating it so well. Its never really over. MichiganVote Mar 2013 #1

Are there ways to respond to it? that makes one able to get over it? angstlessk Mar 2013 #2

You have and had -0- responsibility. I don't care if you walked across the alter naked, MichiganVote Mar 2013 #3

Can I heal at 62? I still cry about it...I don't cry aabout anything else that ever happened to angstlessk Mar 2013 #5

Honey you have been healing all along, you just didn't expect to still carry that MichiganVote Mar 2013 #6

I still cry. When the tears come, I let them come, till they subside, then I carry on. Voice for Peace Mar 2013 #11

toxic tears undergroundpanther Apr 2013 #14

Counseling helps. But... Behind the Aegis Mar 2013 #4

After the rape my mother sent me to a counselor..l remember I felt like I was 3 inches angstlessk Mar 2013 #7

Counseling has come a long way. Behind the Aegis Mar 2013 #10

Why should you be over it? one_voice Mar 2013 #8

This is the only support group..I already feel better..thanks.. angstlessk Mar 2013 #9

I went into the Stubenville Rape threads by choice. It hurt like hell! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #12

I'm a guy and I was 7... Anonymousecoview Apr 2013 #13

Welcome to DU and the forum Anonymousecoview FedUpWithIt All Apr 2013 #15

I'm very sorry that happened to you. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #16