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Scrivener7

(53,431 posts)
4. He tells us that women look for economic and emotional viability, while men look for attractiveness.
Tue Feb 6, 2024, 10:14 PM
Feb 2024

Then he blames the problem of lonely men on the fact that though women could find a date, they just "can't find a man they find economically or emotionally viable" and that is the reason 20 percent of men on dating sites get 60 percent of the interest.

But likewise, the whole point of the subject is that men aren't finding women they find viable in attractiveness, and therefore they are single and lonely. I seriously doubt his "men who can't find a date" are making a habit of going after unattractive women. I also seriously doubt that the statistics on dating sites are much different for women: 20 percent getting the majority of interest from men. Interestingly, though, I have never seen that side of the statistic discussed.

And one solution he describes is that we have to invest in giving financial advantages back to men so women will want to marry them. Though he is squirreling around it, that necessarily means investing common resources into giving men financial advantage compared to women. Sorry, but no.

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I will watch the whole thing later. In the first five minutes, all I heard from niyad Feb 2024 #1
We aren't failing them vercetti2021 Feb 2024 #9
Too many women have either experienced or seen this coming. ancianita Feb 2024 #2
I have heard this theory throughout my life BigmanPigman Feb 2024 #3
He tells us that women look for economic and emotional viability, while men look for attractiveness. Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #4
It's telling willamette Feb 2024 #11
Wow. That is VERY interesting!!! Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #12
It's like learning the words "Open Sesame" willamette Feb 2024 #17
I love this and will use it, thanks for the concept. JudyM Mar 2024 #19
I've thought about adding a line willamette Mar 2024 #20
I love it. JudyM Mar 2024 #21
I've been divorced and happy for the last 51 years. sinkingfeeling Feb 2024 #5
Good for you. I ran away..literally ..from my marriage 14 years ago and will be divorced 12 years this year Deuxcents Feb 2024 #7
One more thing that is not directly answering the video but perhaps this is having a larger effect Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #6
Evolving towards lowering the birthrate is good Envirogal Feb 2024 #14
Nice post, thanks willamette Feb 2024 #8
Society isn't failing them vercetti2021 Feb 2024 #10
But wait! I read in the Washington Post Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #13
I won't be watching the video, my own life is enough life lesson, but K&R and a rec for the title chia Feb 2024 #15
One last observation as I think about this video: we have lots more single men who are sad and lonely Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #16
Huh Chi67 Feb 2024 #18
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