History of Feminism

She's losing weight, has poor job performance, is terrified of leaving because her husband might take the kids and run. She soft sells what is going on--confides different parts of her story to different people--tells them "I'm telling you this because I trust you". She talks a lot about how embarrassed she is. She doesn't outline details of physical violence, but the emotional and mental violence she is experiencing is staggering. She is the primary source of income, her husband sleeps around, (she won't talk about that directly) of course is unreasonably jealous of her and has people she considers unsavory in the home. She's completely desperate--it's the proverbial train wreck in slow motion. She is also in the type of situation where people say 'why doesn't she just leave'

Pathetically, on my part, the best I could come up with to tell her (she asks for, but doesn't follow, advice) is the threat to the kids, ultimately, is temporary--they will grow up and be less vulnerable, then she will be free of that threat. I try very hard not to make her uncomfortable in any way.

Shame surrounds her, she exudes victimhood because she is a victim. It's the shame and the constant fear that's tearing her mind and soul apart