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In reply to the discussion: The plight of the bitter nerd: Why so many awkward, shy guys end up hating feminism (Salon) [View all]seabeyond
(110,159 posts)17. here is the thing. it is about privilege while they see it or not. it a "i deserve" as you state.
cause it is promised to them, in all ways with society, by simply being male.
how often do we talk about the equal number of girls, that do not get? it is not even a consideration or thought. women do not "deserve" sex. men "deserve" the sex
that is the very basic in the issue of all this.
this is what they will not give up. tied up in patriarchy. that allows them their perceived privilege.
i get it is sad. and a bummer. as it is for all who do not get satisfied in this part of their life, one way or another.
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The plight of the bitter nerd: Why so many awkward, shy guys end up hating feminism (Salon) [View all]
YoungDemCA
Jan 2015
OP
Long-term loneliness and lack of relationships is plenty painful for lots of people, myself included
nomorenomore08
Jan 2015
#33
Is it terribly wrong for me to want to just 'slap him upside his head' so he can have both?
freshwest
Jan 2015
#3
I don't think any of these nerds feel privileged or dominant. They envy the so-called ...
dawg
Jan 2015
#16
here is the thing. it is about privilege while they see it or not. it a "i deserve" as you state.
seabeyond
Jan 2015
#17
It *is* about privilege. But these guys aren't privileged when it comes to relationships.
dawg
Jan 2015
#18
It has nothing to do with being awkward or shy, imo. Plenty of likable, outgoing men are also raging
chrisa
Jan 2015
#19
I was an awkward shy guy when I was younger, but I never was a bitter person.
MineralMan
Jan 2015
#20
why should a man insist on impressing many women with his physical/mental prowess? instead
Tuesday Afternoon
Jan 2015
#21
It's about not being macho. And they are considered abnormal in the larger society.
Manifestor_of_Light
Jan 2015
#22
yes, I understand .... actually I was speaking to the macho type male and their mindset
Tuesday Afternoon
Jan 2015
#23
exactly. in these conversations, it is huge concern they cannot attract the "hot" woman. as if owed
seabeyond
Jan 2015
#25
I really liked that article. I particularly think the distinction between what happens in reality
el_bryanto
Jan 2015
#26
and get over the myth there is only adventure and provider. many women self provide.
seabeyond
Jan 2015
#28
"I think the awkward guys blaming feminism are blaming the wrong thing."
nomorenomore08
Jan 2015
#34
Reading these kinds of articles, I always find myself thinking, "It could have been me."
nomorenomore08
Jan 2015
#35