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Flatulo

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9. The traditional gender expectations did a great deal of harm to my son when he was young.
Wed Feb 26, 2014, 04:48 PM
Feb 2014

Like me, he eschewed sports, and was terribly bullied and traumatized starting around the sixth grade. It took a horrific toll on the whole family. He felt worthless, ashamed, and it really drove him into a bad state. With the help of a his family and a wonderful therapist, he's a happy and well-adjusted 24 y/o man with a lovely girlfriend who enjoys his cooking.

Fuck all this macho locker room shit. It hurts, even kills boys. It's somewhat analogous to the body expectations that young women have to struggle with, although it does ease up in high school whereas women have to deal with it for a lifetime. At least it eased for my son. He got into theater, and by then there was a lot more acceptance of the non-macho stuff. He even ended up being friendly with a lot of the guys who had tormented him years earlier.

On edit: didn't mean to make this about males, as it's a feminist forum. I did want to point out though that both genders take a hit from this crap.

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