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In reply to the discussion: Men get it [View all]

JustAnotherGen

(34,144 posts)
33. And this is why
Wed Feb 19, 2014, 12:51 PM
Feb 2014

I intend to start reaching out to the women and minorities at DU on a personal level .. .


A progressive message board should be a place women can come without having to fight an uphill battle against misogyny, so it's even more hurtful to women that come here in the hopes of not having to fight the same battles ad infinitum when they're coming from a place where they've been fighting those battles for ages and the fights often end in a loss because the power structure is too firmly established.


But make no mistake - from what I've seen shared by the women of the HOF group - and my fellow groups members in the AA group -

We have lives. I've also noted that specifically for those women who are heterosexual - we have men in our lives who are very very kind, and very very loving. My husband reads - English is not his first language so he does not feel comfortable posting here (except for Saturday night with bravenak) - he reads a great deal.

He picked up on the fact that seabeyond had been given a vacay yesterday before I did. And he doesn't understand why people 'pick on that sweetheart'. Now - he's not being sexist. Again, different culture. But she along with several other women that he follows in this group are 'sweethearts' as far as he is concerned who are just trying to be heard. Perhaps this is not the best place for women to be heard.

And perhaps - he knows I'm capable of developing a successful online community where women can be heard . . . But I digress. We all HAVE lives. So often I would like to post, "Hey Mister! I HAVE a life!"

But I don't - to keep the peace. And well, then I would get alerted on for pointing out that some guy on the other end of the internet does NOT have a life.

See - lately - that's the way it's been working around here.

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Men get it [View all] BainsBane Feb 2014 OP
A lot absolutely do. TDale313 Feb 2014 #1
That is a great thread and yeah,I absolutely believe sufrommich Feb 2014 #2
I'm hoping this thread you link is sending a major message--to admins as well. hlthe2b Feb 2014 #3
This message was self-deleted by its author A-Schwarzenegger Feb 2014 #6
I also PMed him shortly before he locked it BainsBane Feb 2014 #7
I wonder if skinner is aware that even though DURHAM D Feb 2014 #11
It is a great thread gollygee Feb 2014 #4
agreed. nt BainsBane Feb 2014 #5
Bonobos make me objectify women... awoke_in_2003 Feb 2014 #8
How is your boss holding up? Squinch Feb 2014 #10
... awoke_in_2003 Feb 2014 #13
That's where the hope and the love is ismnotwasm Feb 2014 #9
I saw a lot of names of people who seldom get involved in these Squinch Feb 2014 #12
yes, really. BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2014 #18
I know, that makes me so mad, too. kcr Feb 2014 #28
I agree. BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2014 #30
good, maybe people are tired of the pro libertarian bs JI7 Feb 2014 #14
They are creative BainsBane Feb 2014 #15
they went there? BlancheSplanchnik Feb 2014 #31
Just posted in that thread. UtahLib Feb 2014 #16
I'd like to think that most of us chromosome-challenged types do. riqster Feb 2014 #17
Probably our Patriarchal society to blame. ErikJ Feb 2014 #19
Yes, but society is comprised of individuals BainsBane Feb 2014 #20
The problem is the women objectify themselves also ErikJ Feb 2014 #21
Watch this BainsBane Feb 2014 #22
You cant deny this is a very Patriarchal society. Women will ErikJ Feb 2014 #23
The question is what are YOU going to do? BainsBane Feb 2014 #25
So who do you want us to focus on? KitSileya Feb 2014 #27
You can't objectify yourself when society objectifies you before you even know what's going on. redqueen Feb 2014 #24
wow. powerful statement by John Berger. Thanks for posting that. Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #36
maybe they are doing it for their girlfriend, why do guys assume it's all for some guy ? JI7 Feb 2014 #26
Yes Warren does 'get it' JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #29
This board almost is a support group to some people. JoeyT Feb 2014 #32
And this is why JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #33
I think it's about reclaiming power BainsBane Feb 2014 #34
This - yes yes yes! JustAnotherGen Feb 2014 #35
this Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #37
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