History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: The vilification of Mia Farrow on DU [View all]maggies farm
(79 posts)Is it alright to like neither Mia nor Woody? I feel for Dylan as her parents are both very dysfunctional by my outward observation, but that is likely to mean Dylan is dysfunctional as well. I do not have an intimate friendship with either to pass further judgement.
I empathize with all survivors of sexual abuse.
This issue has raised a lot of pain for plenty of people. People that have been abused, and people who have been falsely accused.
But my pain is once I was falsely accused of some form of sexual inappropriateness. As a child I was falsely accused of molesting my best friends niece.
I was playing with my friend at his house when his mom came in and sternly said, "XXXX" why did you do this to "XXX"? In shocked astonishment I said, "what?" She said, you molested "XXX". I replied that I had absolutely nothing to do with "XXX" and that whatever happened (or not) was not me!
At the time she was 6 and I was around 11 or 12.
I recall going home distraught and in tears, and my sister inquired and I told her of these accusations.
Many years later... at a teenager keg party I was confronted in a group by "XXX"s boyfriend. he said, "XXXX" why did you do such a despicable thing?" I looked the girl right in the eye and said, "XXX" I don't know what happened to you, but it was not me and please stop spreading falsehoods."
Maybe she had been molested by a close relative and felt that she needed to say something while still providing cover to another. Maybe she had a false memory, or maybe she was outright lying.
Maybe this happened as Dylan described. But I can say that in my story a 6 year old told a lie about me, and ten or so years later she continued with a false accusation, and perhaps to this day she is convinced I did something that I never did.