In a case where there is no accusation of rape, there is no reason to lump it together with cases in which a complainant reports an assault. That is a clear distinction.
Secondly. Rape is a matter of law. Certainly pedophiles commonly think there is nothing wrong with what they do. That is the nature of their sickness. That doesn't make it so. It is black and white. Raping a child is a horrendous crime. Touching a child sexually is a crime. Fondling a child is a crime. Period. One is either a pedophile or not a pedophile. One rapes minors or one does not have sex with minors.
Rape of a adult is also a crime. Whether a man believes he was entitled to compel a woman to have sex is irrelevant. Whether he thinks she owes him sex because he bought her dinner, or finds her drunk to the point of incoherence and thinks he can "score" doesn't matter. What matters is whether both parties consent. That's it. Nothing else.
This shit about not being black and white is wrong. There is nothing complicated about knowing if a woman wants to have sex. She tells you so. If she doesn't say yes, no sex. Period. It's not rocket science. Yes means yes. No means no. Silence does not equal consent. Silence means no. Period.
Whether the predator "disagrees honestly" is entirely irrelevant. He committed a crime and should be punished. You are going to have your ass handed to you in the morning. You picked the wrong place to make that argument. Did you pay attention to where you are posting?
What you described in your post is a clear demonstration of why sexual assault goes unpunished. They give the "benefit of the doubt" to the accused and treat the victim as inferior, as though she is unworthy, as though her word means nothing. That is rape culture itself. That bullshit about "honestly disagreeing" is horrifying. You seriously need to rethink that.
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