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In reply to the discussion: How do loners avoid isolation [View all]

catchnrelease

(2,054 posts)
13. Pursue my interests
Sat Nov 23, 2019, 12:22 AM
Nov 2019

Most of my time is spent doing things at home, which is my preference. But I also go to a couple of senior fitness/yoga classes a couple of times a week and to the Y as well. I am in a doll-making group that gets together twice a month to share what we've made, and there are a couple of other random things I do that put me in contact with other people.

But all of these situations are short lived and involve as much interaction as I decide to make. eg: when I go to the exercise classes it's usually just a little chit chat before and after the classes and at the Y I really don't talk to anyone at all. The doll group people I have known for many years now, so there are some actual friendships there.

One of my favorite outside the home things to do is to go to the dog park, which I do a couple times a week. I have a couple of acquaintances there that might involve a few minutes of small talk, other than one dog walker that has become an actual friend. He's just under 40 and is also an introvert, so I mainly interact with his dogs and we commiserate about Trump and the state of the country etc. I actually look forward to doing that.

I am 69 and married to someone that I would describe as an anti-social extrovert if there can be such a thing, lol. He is happy to stay at home most of the time, and is fine with my quirks and introvert personality. He gets most of his socializing on face book with his friends from high school, military, online games etc. Being isolated more than this would not bother me at all. I spend the majority of my time in my 'studio' room either online or working on some kind of art project.

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How do loners avoid isolation [View all] cilla4progress Nov 2019 OP
What if you kind of like it? The Velveteen Ocelot Nov 2019 #1
same Skittles Nov 2019 #4
You said it! enough Nov 2019 #19
I like it. ooky Feb 2020 #22
You're not alone.😊 Joinfortmill Feb 2020 #24
Why would they care? n/t rzemanfl Nov 2019 #2
You crack me up! n/t ariadne0614 Feb 2020 #28
Strong introverts hardly ever feel JenniferJuniper Nov 2019 #3
I'll probably read a lot. Aristus Nov 2019 #5
Some days all I say to another person is " Double Iced Americano please, thank you." likesmountains 52 Nov 2019 #6
But isn't that the point of choosing to be a loner? procon Nov 2019 #7
Depends if the isolation is welcome or if it's imposed, I think. backtoblue Nov 2019 #8
I think you're Q about family/friends is so important to those who do 42bambi Feb 2020 #31
So far, I embrace it. I'm entering the upper side of my 7th decade and can still get around okay. yonder Nov 2019 #9
That's a really great question mahina Nov 2019 #10
I've never gottten any real traction - cilla4progress Nov 2019 #15
I read you. One thing about living in the islands mahina Nov 2019 #18
Me at parties: The Velveteen Ocelot Nov 2019 #11
My wife and I were having this discussion this very minute Ron Obvious Nov 2019 #12
Pursue my interests catchnrelease Nov 2019 #13
What a satisfying cilla4progress Nov 2019 #17
I dunno I_UndergroundPanther Nov 2019 #14
I feel your fears, Panther. cilla4progress Nov 2019 #16
Thanks for the compassion cilla4progress I_UndergroundPanther Nov 2019 #20
I hear you. Joinfortmill Feb 2020 #25
Can you both be a loner and be social? no_hypocrisy Jan 2020 #21
Absolutely Joinfortmill Feb 2020 #26
Woah - cilla4progress Feb 2020 #35
Finding Like-Minded People DumpTrump20202020 Feb 2020 #23
I live in isolation most days I_UndergroundPanther Feb 2020 #27
I live with 2 people. nocoincidences Feb 2020 #29
Want you want to start looking at are places for independent and assisted living. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2020 #32
I do appreciate the advice. nocoincidences Feb 2020 #34
I really, REALLY want you to stop thinking about nursing homes. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2020 #36
Loners like being alone. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2020 #30
I love being alone. SamKnause Feb 2020 #33
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