Coping with Divorce or Separation

i am about to work out a lump sum for my remaining 2 yrs of alimony.
he pulled the oldest dirty trick in the ex husband book- he lost his job and took shitty job just to spite me.
i gave him a low %, and he thinks it should stick, even tho it is clearly spelled out that is was based on THAT job. didnt even stick around to get his severance, which he was supposed to split w me.
i have been sick, and tho i threatened to take him back to court, i had bigger fish to fry.

i am doing well financially, tho, as i invested my proceeds wisely. i bought a shitty little single family home and rehabbed it. the rent from that made up for his shortfall.

we have managed all along to talk about the kids. i have no hard feelings, but he does. i think when he is done writing checks, things will get better.
i always thought we would stay friends, but he doesnt think so.
but we have chatted about a few things lately, and it seems like he is cooling off.

good luck. do you have a good lawyer? i paid a small fortune to one who fired me. i needed what i needed and she didnt think the math could be made to work. but without her in the way, i got what i needed.

i always hated lawyers, and between that one and another who worked on some issues i had w the city, i dont think i will ever hire one again.