Coping with Divorce or Separation

after 30 years, i finally took him at his word when he threatened divorce for the umpteenth time. i wouldnt let him take it back. but to him it was i who threw him out.

i kept asking him why he didnt thank me for finally setting him free. when it all finally wrapped up i asked about him that again, and he had to admit it was a true statement.
he is happily settled in w a new lady who is laughably like me.

after the settlement, it all settled down. admitted that he was good about everything after that point. the minor things that needed to be disentangled went smoothly.

a year and a half later we are even able to be on the same page in trying to get our son to accept help for his obvious mental illness. (it runs in the family) his siblings, who had written him off, also came together.
this was all beyond my fondest hopes. in spite of everything, we are all still a family.

i promise it gets better after all the chips fall.