We have an agreement, signed and sealed, first payment w/in 5-10 days, [View all]

Remainder to be delivered in January 2012.

RANT; please pardon.

Please help me feel better about this.

After 2+ years of him futzing around, playing power games, in court today and with encouragement of judge, we 'memorialized' agreement we'd arrived at in ADR 13 months ago. I get NO 'credit for time served,' that is, no interest on the funds which have sat in HIS mutual fund accounts since January 2009, sale of our house, nor do I get 'credit' for fact I agreed to less than 50% of proceeds 13 months ago based on premise funds would be immediately forthcoming. NOR do I get attorney's fees. We had agreed to these terms 13 months ago, and my attorney and I sweated bullets in the interim to put agreement in form to suit the p.o.s., thus running up attorney fees (which are very reasonable, by the way, but still more than $10,000.)

I attempted to change major term, 'Actual amount,' 2 weeks ago, after he failed to appear in court 26 October, me thinking to take our ADR agreement off the table and obtain something more by 'agreement' OR go to trial and leaving decision to judge. Didn't happen, tho I could have insisted (and maybe annoyed judge, even tho he's a very good guy and probably would have understood if I had insisted on telling the tale. He didn't want to hear too much of the tale, so as not to jeopardize the status quo, that is, neither party providing 'evidence' today.)

So I'm annoyed at myself for not having been more aggressive, tho I did what I felt necessary in the context. (I am an attorney and somewhat aware of the does and don'ts in such courtroom situations.)

SO I hope to be able to relax into this, tho I'm afraid I'll retain the resentment, especially at times when I feel constrained from doing things, like traveling and moving to a 'better' neighborhood, due to my essential conservative nature spending-wise.