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Coping with Divorce or Separation

a la izquierda

(11,930 posts) Tue Apr 22, 2014, 02:26 AM Apr 2014

Knowing when to walk away. [View all]

I've been married nearly 9 years, but together more than 15. There has been no spark for years. We almost divorced several years ago, but tried to work it out. That succeeded for a little while...but now we're back at square 1. I'm in counseling, he is not. We started talking about the D two weeks ago, then stopped.

We're both young, no kids. The stress is killing me...

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Knowing when to walk away. [View all] a la izquierda Apr 2014 OP

My advice and it's a bit off topic Sherman A1 Apr 2014 #1

Thank you. a la izquierda Apr 2014 #2

Best to You Sherman A1 Apr 2014 #3

Yeah, it's much more wrenching with kids villager Apr 2014 #6

This stuff is awesome for stress. Makes you feel better in mahina Dec 2019 #28

yes self care is so important during breakups nowandlater Feb 2020 #31

It can be worked through and you have to let your friends and family know you need ... marble falls Feb 2020 #32

I know this is late Rorey Feb 2020 #35

The question to ask yourself is the old advice columnist question: SheilaT Apr 2014 #4

I strongly suggest he be in therapy and you both empire we are Apr 2014 #5

That's a tough one laundry_queen May 2014 #7

when it's time to leave~ Chimeradog Aug 2014 #8

I filed when I realized it was never going to get better, only worse and worse Demeter Mar 2015 #9

Thanks. a la izquierda Mar 2015 #10

It took me 8 years to decide Demeter Mar 2015 #11

Start pulling down those bricks. SheilaT Mar 2015 #12

I'll be 68 in January 2019 duhneece Dec 2018 #25

A new start is always better.. tiffinynelson Apr 2015 #13

Hello ~ tiffinynelson In_The_Wind Apr 2015 #14

I am in a similar situation bighart Jun 2015 #15

Without knowing more than what you've posted, SheilaT Jun 2015 #16

Thank you for the reply bighart Jun 2015 #17

Clearly you got married young. SheilaT Jun 2015 #18

I think in many ways I have done her a disservice bighart Jun 2015 #21

Do push her very hard to get a job. SheilaT Jun 2015 #22

I'm sorry for you... a la izquierda Jun 2015 #19

Thank you. bighart Jun 2015 #20

A la izquierda, please read my post about the stress mahina Dec 2019 #29

Coping with Divorce or Separation 01stworldview Feb 2017 #23

There's some very good advice in this thread mnhtnbb Feb 2018 #24

It's a balance sheet (or was for me;) elleng Dec 2018 #26

The tip I got was to ask myself if there was one thing I loved about her to sacrifice ... marble falls Feb 2020 #34

Life is too short to be unhappy and not enjoy marrage kimbutgar Dec 2018 #27

I'm just revisiting this thread. a la izquierda Dec 2019 #30

Do what you need to end the stress. Use counciling to fix the stress and not go over the ... marble falls Feb 2020 #33

Wow, i'm writing this in 2022 !!!!! a kennedy Apr 2022 #36