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Bereavement

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RFCalifornia

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Tue Oct 5, 2021, 05:07 PM Oct 2021

My dad died a year ago, my mother two years ago [View all]

My relationship with them was, well, complicated

I still loved them both, despite the complications

But after their deaths, I started having lots of dreams about them

Even before my dad's death -- he had a stroke that left him in a very compromised state for seven years -- I would have dreams of him suddenly coming to and back to his old self

In some of those dreams he would say how proud of the way I managed his money during his stroke days

In some of those dreams we were back at the family cabin

In some of those dreams we were at a hotel and I kept trying to find a way out

Anyway, those dreams are becoming less and less frequent

Even though I woke up stressed from those dreams, I miss them

Is this normal?

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Did you seek out bereavement counseling? SheltieLover Oct 2021 #1
No. Like a lot of people I thought "I can handle this on my own" RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #5
If your parents were in palliative or hospice care, SheltieLover Oct 2021 #8
That window has long since passed nt RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #11
They can still provide therapy & likely havve groups SheltieLover Oct 2021 #13
Yes, it's completely normal Rorey Oct 2021 #2
The same with me Siwsan Oct 2021 #6
My dad died of a misdiagnosed brain tumor. At first, in my dreams, he was still wasting away Siwsan Oct 2021 #3
I'm so sorry RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #7
I still have one brother Siwsan Oct 2021 #9
That's good RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #12
Dreams about a recently deceased person you cared about are common. Also common, 3Hotdogs Oct 2021 #4
My dad and I had a very complicated relationship RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #10
He was very proud of you Rorey Oct 2021 #16
Thanks RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #19
And seriously... RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #32
You write about his hitch in the army.... WW II? Korea? Both were about that Silent Generation time. 3Hotdogs Oct 2021 #25
Inbetween those RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #29
There is no right way - it's about you - and I should be lisa58 Oct 2021 #14
You are so right! Rorey Oct 2021 #17
My parents died decades ago and I still dream about them. Midnight Writer Oct 2021 #15
They are beautiful RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #31
You bet. I only had one dream about my dad. I was sitting in a chair with a chair board desk ... marble falls Oct 2021 #18
My father passed away 30 years ago. FuzzyRabbit Oct 2021 #20
Hold on to those because... RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #30
I lost my dad MFM008 Oct 2021 #21
We scattered my mom's ashes off the Golden Gate Bridge RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #22
Good places MFM008 Oct 2021 #23
My life with my dad was very easy, we both enjoyed the same things and loved spending time together. Enter stage left Oct 2021 #24
I will my friend :) RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #27
I think Rebl2 Oct 2021 #26
I get it nt RFCalifornia Oct 2021 #28
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