Bereavement

She is 86, and quit smoking when she was 49. She is taking Spiriva. My brother thinks she read the warning information that came with the drug, and it started her worrying.

If she really wants to help herself breathe better, she can lose weight. She is under five feet tall, and weighs more than two hundred pounds. If she walked with someone, saw a nutritionist or a doctor, and had a plan to lose weight, it would give her a positive goal. And it really is necessary! I am going to get one of my brothers to suggest that to her. If she hears it from me, she will not listen.

My brother middle brother thinks she is seeking attention, which is what I think, too. My younger brother has no comment, which is normal for him. He involves himself as little as possible. My husband thinks she will live for another ten years. I agree with him.

You have to know my mother. My middle brother and I have both been through therapy, partly because of her abuse. She has not been diagnosed, but we both believe she has narcissistic personality disorder.