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CousinIT

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14. Why I always tell younger women....

Sun Jan 22, 2023, 11:54 PM

Jan 2023

...get educated, get a career and KEEP IT. You have GOT to be financially independent at all times. Because you never know what can happen - women of all ages need to work, save for THEMSELVES - even if happily married and have kids. The husband could die suddenly - it happens - if she isn't employed and has no way pay for any kind of housing, she's stuck. Having to sell and get a smaller, cheaper place is fine but have a plan for YOURSELF.

Women live longer, make less and need their own social security and social security laws are weird when it comes to marriage. And HELL YES caregiving should absolutely garner social security credit. But since it's usually (not always) women doing it for FREE, it's discounted. Women care for the husband, his parents, her parents, their kids, grandkids. Who takes care of the women? Nobody.

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What Happens When You Lose Your Home At 72? - (WGBH) [View all] appalachiablue Jan 2023 OP

Good grief! I'm so tempted to try to find her. Better Days Ahoy Jan 2023 #1

Terrific, security is critical esp in this demographic. How kind of you to think of Judith. The appalachiablue Jan 2023 #3

Great heartfelt idea. Check the cemeteries and find the one where she stays? So sad, but maybe? Evolve Dammit Jan 2023 #5

Maybe contact the reporter News Junkie Jan 2023 #19

Thank you to everything me who offered ideas! Better Days Ahoy Jan 2023 #20

This is so heartbreaking, Diamond_Dog Jan 2023 #2

Well this doesn't help. Rich cities in Massachusetts doesn't want low income housing. jimfields33 Jan 2023 #7

--- ain't just Massachusetts. I live in N.J. Retired. I am in a hiking club and there are several 3Hotdogs Jan 2023 #17

Not true, friend. No evidence to back your assertion. DU is better than that. Better Days Ahoy Jan 2023 #21

Why I always tell younger women.... CousinIT Jan 2023 #14

Things are slowly getting better Diamond_Dog Jan 2023 #15

I agree. All good points. CousinIT Jan 2023 #16

All good points, Cousin IT! I agree 100% Diamond_Dog Jan 2023 #22

No excuse for this in the richest country in the world. None. Evolve Dammit Jan 2023 #4

See my number 7. What can you do when residents don't want low income housing? jimfields33 Jan 2023 #8

non-caring, rich people will never resolve issues. They could. But won't It's up to the rest of us. Evolve Dammit Jan 2023 #23

Check, plus appalachiablue Jan 2023 #11

Nomadland the movie progressoid Jan 2023 #6

That's an amazing movie. Sky Jewels Jan 2023 #13

I had an uncle by marriage who later divorced my aunt when he remarried a younger woman (another kimbutgar Jan 2023 #9

Heartbreaking story. progressoid Jan 2023 #18

Tax the rich, Lift all boats. hydrolastic Jan 2023 #10

We're #1! The richest country in the world, and yet a huge number of the unhoused. niyad Jan 2023 #12

I spent some 25 years as a stay at home mom. PoindexterOglethorpe Jan 2023 #24