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Easterncedar

(3,968 posts)
10. Mow the lawn if there is one
Thu Sep 1, 2022, 04:38 PM
Sep 2022

My neighbor just started doing it for me, and another stepped up, too. It wasn’t truly necessary, but the thoughtfulness warmed me. Later on one offered to take large items to the transfer station. One couple asks me now and then if I want to order takeout with them. A dear friend made me a lovely batch of lasagna that lasted me the whole first week after my partner died. I couldn’t have cooked. It was lovely not to have to think about it.

It’s very kind of you to care enough to ask.

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Expressed sympathy, but elleng Sep 2022 #1
Thank you! Jade Fox Sep 2022 #11
Befriend her & listen to her life story without judgment SheltieLover Sep 2022 #2
Thank you so much. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #12
Buy finger paints & paper & invite her over to play! SheltieLover Sep 2022 #19
Interesting! Jade Fox Sep 2022 #21
The more fluid the medium, the more cathartic the effect SheltieLover Sep 2022 #23
Invite her over for meals? SheltieLover Sep 2022 #3
Yes. And include other friends if possible. 3Hotdogs Sep 2022 #8
Thanks so much for your help. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #13
Yes! SheltieLover Sep 2022 #20
Yes. And include other friends if possible. 3Hotdogs Sep 2022 #9
Check on her enough especially in the initial months of her loss. sprinkleeninow Sep 2022 #4
Thank you. I'll keep this in mind. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #14
Lost a boyfriend in my early 20s and found that friends were afraid to mention him. MLAA Sep 2022 #5
After I made this post... Jade Fox Sep 2022 #18
Do you drive??? ultralite001 Sep 2022 #6
Walking together -- great idea. Thanks so much. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #15
Invite her to a simple (not lavish) lunch or dinner where she can talk No Vested Interest Sep 2022 #7
Thank you. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #16
Mow the lawn if there is one Easterncedar Sep 2022 #10
Great ideas..... Jade Fox Sep 2022 #17
Have her over & get her talking about what she used to enjoy doing SheltieLover Sep 2022 #22
Thanks so much. Great ideas here. Jade Fox Sep 2022 #24
I interned at a hospice in bereavement. 😉 SheltieLover Sep 2022 #25
People stopped by with meals Marthe48 Sep 2022 #26
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