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MIButterfly

(2,623 posts) Thu Mar 5, 2026, 02:57 PM Mar 5

Martini UPDATE - the prognosis is not good. [View all]

Last edited Thu Mar 5, 2026, 03:55 PM - Edit history (1)

Some of her test results were good and some of them weren't. Martini is in kidney failure and there really aren't any good options. I already vetoed surgery. She's so skinny I don't think she would survive any kind of surgery and if the spot is cancerous, I don't want her to get chemo. I'm all about quality of life and not quantity of life.

The vet wants to see her every three months now.

I hate that this is happening. I'm so scared. I just can't find the words right now. The pain is unbearable. I know it's irrational, but I keep thinking it's my fault.

Edited to add: the vet said she's in stage 2 kidney failure.

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Martini UPDATE - the prognosis is not good. [View all] MIButterfly Mar 5 OP

Don't waste time blaming yourself Catlady123 Mar 5 #1

Thank you, Catlady123. MIButterfly Mar 6 #11

The time with your beloved Martini is a gift SheltieLover Mar 6 #18

So true. And what an amazing gift it has been! MIButterfly Mar 6 #24

Enjoy your time together! SheltieLover Mar 6 #25

You know I will! Thank you! ❤️ MIButterfly Mar 7 #31

Love and cherish her in the time you and she have left together. jls4561 Mar 5 #2

Thank you, jls4561, for your advice. MIButterfly Mar 6 #12

It's not your fault. My Millie is 20 years old. Polly Hennessey Mar 5 #3

Thank you, Polly Hennessey, for your kind words. MIButterfly Mar 6 #13

I am so sorry you are both going through this. brer cat Mar 5 #4

Thank you, brer cat. MIButterfly Mar 6 #14

Healing vibes on the way to both of you. SheltieLover Mar 5 #5

Thank you, SheltieLover! MIButterfly Mar 6 #15

this might help, it's helped my cats, best of luck with Martini Nigrum Cattus Mar 5 #6

Thank you, Nigrum Cattus! MIButterfly Mar 6 #16

So sorry, I know it hurts Walleye Mar 5 #7

Thank you, Walleye. MIButterfly Mar 6 #17

Hi MIButterfly, JMCKUSICK Mar 5 #8

Thank you, JMCKUSICK. MIButterfly Mar 6 #20

Thank you for your sweet words MIButterfly JMCKUSICK Mar 6 #30

Stop blaming yourself. We all do that when someone Figarosmom Mar 5 #9

Thank you, Figarosmom. MIButterfly Mar 6 #21

NOT your fault!!! Laurelin Mar 6 #10

Thank you, Laurelin, for your kind words. MIButterfly Mar 6 #22

Not your fault Babe. Not at all. irisblue Mar 6 #19

Thank you, irisblue. MIButterfly Mar 6 #23

I am so sorry, MIButterfly! 10 Turtle Day Mar 6 #26

Thank you, 10 Turtle Day! MIButterfly Mar 7 #32

I am very sorry this is happening. LoisB Mar 6 #27

Thank you, LoisB! MIButterfly Mar 7 #33

When the time comes, if she doesn't just slip away on her own and you have to help... 3catwoman3 Mar 6 #28

Thank you for your kind and wise words, 3catwoman3! MIButterfly Mar 7 #34

Holding you and your precious girl in light and love, with vibes for best niyad Mar 6 #29

Thank you, niyad! MIButterfly Mar 7 #35