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wnylib

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5. Ember is the first female cat that I ve had.
Sat Feb 28, 2026, 03:56 PM
Feb 2026

My previous ones have all been male

I don't know if this is true of most females, but Ember is less territorial than the males were.

The cat before Ember was Leo, an orange male tabby. He was so affectionate that I nicknamed him Mr. Love. But he was also very territorial. If he was curled on the couch end whee I usually sat, he would not budge. He pushed back at any attempts to move him.

There is one kitchen chair where I often sit when reading a book or posting online. It's more convenient than my desk chair since the desk is cluttered. Also close to the fridge for snacks.

When I was away from that chair, Leo used to curl up on it. When I returned to the chair, he wrapped his paws around the seat to avoid being moved. Sometimes when I was seated there, Leo decided that it was his turn to have the chair. He would jump onto it behind me and push hard against my back with his whole body, trying to dislodge me.

When he lost that battle for the chair, he just sat on a chair that was at the end of the table and perpendicular to mine. Then he reached a paw under the table to touch my leg, as if to confirm that we were still friends.

Ember is just the opposite. When I approach the couch where she is spread out she immediately leaps down to yield it to me. Same with the chair.






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So very, very true!!! niyad Feb 2026 #1
Ha Ha Indeed! Thank You niyad!!! George McGovern Feb 2026 #3
That is cute. LoisB Feb 2026 #2
Thanks Lois! George McGovern Feb 2026 #4
Ember is the first female cat that I ve had. wnylib Feb 2026 #5
Goodness gracious wnylib what a difference in person-cat-alities. Sounds like Leo loved to play kitchen chair games. George McGovern Feb 2026 #8
They are total opposites in many ways. wnylib Feb 2026 #9
Ember may have been Godsent. Thanks wnylib. George McGovern Feb 2026 #12
Another little chuckle for you regarding wnylib Feb 2026 #13
Ha Ha LOL THAT'S a Big Time Hardy Har Har wnylib!! Leo defeats gravity! What would Newton think!! THX!! George McGovern Feb 2026 #14
I later learned that there was sound cat logic and wnylib Feb 2026 #15
Holy Cats wnylib! You could be a cat family's therapist. I read a "cat quote" -- George McGovern Mar 2026 #16
Love that quote. wnylib Mar 2026 #17
You and Ember have a remarkable relationship! Mutual understanding. That is so cool. George McGovern Mar 2026 #18
I used to have several photos of Ember, but wnylib Mar 2026 #20
I'm so sorry wnylib. My wife lost a great many pictures when her old Facebook account George McGovern Mar 2026 #21
No eye for pohotography. Just luck that I caught her at the right times and places. wnylib Mar 2026 #23
Here's how I post photos from my desktop computer. I don't know how this translates to a phone though. George McGovern Mar 2026 #25
Thanks. wnylib Mar 2026 #26
I have a plaque in my kitchen that has that saying on it. MIButterfly Feb 2026 #6
It's a tried and true sentiment. Thanks MIButterfly! George McGovern Feb 2026 #10
I have a plaque that says wnylib Mar 2026 #24
Ain't that the truth?! I love it! MIButterfly Mar 2026 #28
LOL wnylib Mar 2026 #29
The moment we vacate a chair, one of our 4 will be right there to lay claim... 3catwoman3 Feb 2026 #7
Hah they're no dummies 3catwoman3! A warm butt's a happy butt. Thank You! George McGovern Feb 2026 #11
In my house you must remove both cats and dogs. What's Polly Hennessey Mar 2026 #19
Golly Polly How do you stand it? No, wait, with the floor only, how do you sit for it? George McGovern Mar 2026 #22
Very carefully. Polly Hennessey Mar 2026 #27
Yes 🐾 so very true 💙 TommieMommy Mar 2026 #30
Sound like you're speaking from experience TommieMommy! Love your paws and heart! Thank You! George McGovern Mar 2026 #31
My boy gets behind me in my chair and pushes me off the chair with his paws. TommieMommy Mar 2026 #32
Jeez, he's not too subtle is he? But, yes, cuteness can forgive a lot. Adorable they are for sure. George McGovern Mar 2026 #33
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