Although I probably did not need to try and 'join' the group. I should have maybe just visited I read the SOP to make sure if rules were there, I followed them. It was only a couple of sentences. It seemed clear and simple. I tried to say so. That was locked too.
This is how I saw it. On Halloween my son said why does the name 'libodem' make me think of lesbian? I thought about if that was what I projected and since I'm straight was that alright with me. I thought would I be ashamed of that? I thought no. I should be proud if I were gay. So what.
I then about discussing in GBLT group. Though I'd join to have it on my subscrition feed. New topics show up there. That is how it started.
I almost wonder if someone searched all my old posts to find the "Friends of Dorothy" theme to bait me into saying the wrong thing? I wonder now if I had a wrong idea they found in an old post. My friend had told me she learned it in the 70's from her gay men friends. So I've known about the secret code of asking discreetly if someone might be gay, for the last 30 years.
This where I went wrong. I presumed the theme of the Wizard of Oz was ethereal and fluffy and that that Glenda the Good Witch was a fairy-like character. I asked if that was the linkage? I did not realize that was the most god awful offensive mistake in the world I could make. I will accept it because they say so. I get it, now. The Wicked Witch must be the reason the movie and Dorothy were popular with the culture. The munchkins, the tin, man, the cowardly lion, and the strawman all have a lot more in common with GLBT than that ridiculoud angle like entity, I mistakenly supposed did.
I put the word fairy in writing and asked a question about it. It made them angry and I didn't check back in time to see the warning. I got a mail saying I was banned from the group and locked out. Later I received a second mail saying I was locked. I would have taken all down if I had had the chance. The alert called me 'he' and a troll.
I've been here 7 years. I'm a she and I gave them a short bio do they knew that.
At first I thought oh.well I didn't belong there and I've obviously made enemies out in meta over the word policing.
And then I started to cry. I felt very misunderstood and hurt by the assumption I had just gone in to be ignorant to them. I really felt heartbroken and sad over being hated by all the gay people here. I didn't want it to be a drama in meta. And I didn't want to have everyone know I said fairy in gay group. I'm embarrassed and shamed
I did something awful and hurtful stumbling in there being clumsy. I thought we would be able to talk. But they let me know I not worth the piss to put me out if I were on fire. They don't like me and they certainly don't want me. They hurt me back as much as they could and I felt every bit of it.
That's how I saw it.
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