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Mental Health Support

MLAA

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10. I'm so sorry to hear about your current situation.

Reply to OldBaldy1701E (Original post)

Sun Dec 8, 2024, 07:03 PM

Dec 8

Sounds like husband has been through a lot since the layoff and even before having to deal with the upstream management. However, that can’t be an excuse to lay so much grief at your door. I don’t know how to advise you to try to help him see that you aren’t the problem and in fact could help him lessen his anger/disappointment. Does he have any family or friends that could engage with him? I’m sending you lots of hugs and kind thoughts for you both. 🩵❤️🩷

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So, since you folks are the only people I talk to other than my husband... [View all] OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 OP

so how can you love someone who treats you like crap? NoRethugFriends Dec 8 #1

He is also going through some really bad things. OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #4

I've often wondered the same thing. It's like they are two very different things, but I don't see them that way. Biophilic Dec 8 #2

It is interesting that you say this. OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #11

No, not too much to ask. Biophilic Dec 9 #31

huggggggs. Sometimes it just hurts too much to cry. One is afraid that, once niyad Dec 8 #3

I have been grappling with that thought. OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #22

I'm sorry wryter2000 Dec 8 #5

Yep. OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #13

I felt that way living in Maryland Wicked Blue Dec 8 #18

Hehe, we are opposites. OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #23

Just re-watched Stutz on Netflix. He has a tool for this. mahina Dec 8 #6

And maybe if it's right telling him you're extracting yourself from the conversation because you won't be spoken to that mahina Dec 8 #7

I don't have the answer XanaDUer2 Dec 8 #8

A hug right back to you! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #14

Does he have a doctor? multigraincracker Dec 8 #9

We both need to see one. OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #15

Call the social worker at senior cntr XanaDUer2 Dec 8 #16

I understand. Try this, look up CBT for anxiety to start with. multigraincracker Dec 8 #25

I'm so sorry to hear about your current situation. MLAA Dec 8 #10

He recently 'lost' his sister to a church. OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #17

Oh, sweetheart! In my experience you cannot fix another person or persons! MLAA Dec 8 #20

Is there a senior center near you? SheltieLover Dec 8 #12

Guess what? OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #19

Well, you could talk to your doc about him. SheltieLover Dec 8 #21

may I ask your age bracket, are you anywhere near Medicare eligibility? Skittles Dec 8 #26

Not yet. OldBaldy1701E Dec 9 #28

actually the initial age for Medicare is still 65 Skittles Dec 9 #30

Quick clarification. OldBaldy1701E Dec 8 #24

Take a deep breath, smile, and say " You may be right". And move on... No Vested Interest Dec 9 #27

That is basically what I did. OldBaldy1701E Dec 9 #29

How are you today? Nt XanaDUer2 Dec 9 #32

Trying to act like I am in the holiday spirit while falling behind on getting stuff done. OldBaldy1701E Dec 10 #33

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Dec 11 #34

Thanks. OldBaldy1701E Dec 11 #35