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Dear_Prudence

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12. My brother never called or sent a card when I had cancer.

Fri Oct 4, 2024, 01:48 PM

Oct 2024

I was hurt and read online advice, mostly saying to cut unreliable people out of one's life. But I decided that I wouldn't let his neglect define me, I would remain his loving, supportive big sister. I never said anything to him, he has a difficult life. I saw him this summer and he told me he wears his breast cancer support tshirt to work on Friday all during October. So, the love was there, but undetectable to me. You get to decide who you are, whether others express their love or not. DUers are here for you. Happy belated birthday, XanaDUer2. 🎂

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I'm on the shit list [View all] XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 OP

I wish I had something wise and helpful to say. All I can do is offer huggggggs niyad Oct 2024 #1

💙💙💙 sheshe2 Oct 2024 #2

Talk to your therapist, or call 988 Dennis Donovan Oct 2024 #3

I talked to my therapist XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 #4

I talk to mine bi-weekly. Dennis Donovan Oct 2024 #7

Shelter sounds good... Karadeniz Oct 2024 #5

I still remember the times my own mother forgot my birthday Siwsan Oct 2024 #6

You know. My bday was saturday XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 #8

Happy (belated) Birthday!!! LoisB Oct 2024 #9

Ty XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 #10

You are not alone. We are here. LoisB Oct 2024 #11

My brother never called or sent a card when I had cancer. Dear_Prudence Oct 2024 #12

TY for skating XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 #13

Yep. It is hard to realize that you matter to no one. OldBaldy1701E Oct 2024 #14

Yeah XanaDUer2 Oct 2024 #15

I know right? OldBaldy1701E Oct 2024 #16