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Mental Health Support

Lulu KC

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15. I hate it AND

Reply to LudwigPastorius (Original post)

Thu Sep 26, 2024, 06:10 PM

Sep 2024

The truth is that in order to climb out of the hole, I actually DO have to DO something. It can be anything—a load of laundry, putting on a favorite article of clothing, watching a funny movie, to start to get things moving. I have to turn away from the people and things that hurt and move toward anything else.

But when someone says that? It moves me farther into the darkness because I will dwell on what they said, in, I hate to admit it—a very self-pitying way.

It’s all in the delivery.

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How many of us who are prone to depression have heard this one? [View all] LudwigPastorius Sep 2024 OP

My favorite is Get Over It. SamKnause Sep 2024 #1

Jesus... LudwigPastorius Sep 2024 #2

I was told this by a nurse as well. OldBaldy1701E Sep 2024 #9

Interesting. LudwigPastorius Sep 2024 #10

I always said that it takes a level of disconnect to be effective in that job. OldBaldy1701E Sep 2024 #13

The thought that being a nurse requires... LudwigPastorius Sep 2024 #14

OH yes. OldBaldy1701E Sep 2024 #16

It's insulting, and doesn't even make sense jmbar2 Sep 2024 #3

Yes, some people still view a very real chemical imbalance in the brain as just a "weakness" of character. LudwigPastorius Sep 2024 #11

Or the charming "pull yourself up by your bootstraps". Dave Bowman Sep 2024 #4

Yep, uggh... LudwigPastorius Sep 2024 #12

It's the type of comment that comes from people that have no empathy. canuckledragger Sep 2024 #5

I think that gblady Sep 2024 #6

People who think they have the right to tell someone else how to feel really grind my gears. ShazzieB Sep 2024 #7

"Wtf, do these people think humans come with a dial that can be set to the emotion of our choice?" OldBaldy1701E Sep 2024 #17

A lack of empathy can also manifest as being upbeat and cheery. All. The. Damned. Time. ShazzieB Sep 2024 #18

Me too! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Sep 2024 #20

This message was self-deleted by its author ShazzieB Sep 2024 #19

Omg XanaDUer2 Sep 2024 #8

I hate it AND Lulu KC Sep 2024 #15