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debm55

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11. In a way that I want to hear the words, I love you from my mother' s mouth. This is strange but the only "love" I know
Sun Dec 31, 2023, 11:50 PM
Dec 2023

from them is the abusive love. It hurts but it is what I am used to. I haven't talked to them since the funeral. She abused my father who was bedridden for 5 years horrible. I did not help as they have 30 cats and 2 dogs and the house smells like shit and there are flies all over. Ocelot II I see a counselor and Shrink and both told me to cut them off. It is at the point that husband is sick of it. Calling my adopted son a bastard, didn't get it through my head . My mother's birthday is on Tuesday. I sent and card and money. I feel unlovable. How can a mother have treated her child like me, but use them when needed. I can;t in my heart and head figure that out. I was the loving child. very smart. no trouble, but for some reason I was "it" and no doctor that I asked has given me an answer of why.

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DEAR debm55, elleng Dec 2023 #1
Sending you love and hoping you can find the strength to cut off the whole family who is not worthy of you. MLAA Dec 2023 #2
I wish I had helpful words, or some kind of answers. Sending hugggggs. Please niyad Dec 2023 #3
I have a little different idea about family . Permanut Dec 2023 #4
I'm so sorry you had and still have such terrible experiences Ocelot II Dec 2023 #5
In a way that I want to hear the words, I love you from my mother' s mouth. This is strange but the only "love" I know debm55 Dec 2023 #11
Listen to your counselor. Let them help you accept the factt Ocelot II Jan 2024 #13
The answer to that is not in you. nocoincidences Jan 2024 #17
Sometimes, for no apparent reason, one child becomes the scapegoat Wicked Blue Jan 2024 #29
Somewhere, find a thought that makes you feel good, and sleep with that thought bucolic_frolic Dec 2023 #6
I am so sorry you are in such a hard place. 1WorldHope Dec 2023 #7
Oh Deb, please take care. yorkster Dec 2023 #8
debm55, you have been through a lot. Please don't give up. You have friends here spooky3 Dec 2023 #9
You are such a great person who gives many of us smiles. BoomaofBandM Dec 2023 #10
Free yourself democrank Dec 2023 #12
Dearest Deb, your family does not deserve you. I feel your cousin is very, very wrong. Ziggysmom Jan 2024 #14
DU loves you better nocoincidences Jan 2024 #15
dear Heart, Let self-preservation begin this minute WhiteTara Jan 2024 #16
From all you have told us about the abominable way... 3catwoman3 Jan 2024 #18
I'm sorry you are hurting cate94 Jan 2024 #19
When I was young, the poem Dan Jan 2024 #20
OMG Deb Duncanpup Jan 2024 #21
debm55, I may be misreading your post. . . UniqueUserName Jan 2024 #22
She did agree with me that my grandmother sexually abused us when we were taking baths. For that I am grateful. My debm55 Jan 2024 #23
You are not obligated to call your mother. UniqueUserName Jan 2024 #24
What if she calls me? This the Mother that let her son me a Pimple Faced Whore for three years. I got engaged, got debm55 Jan 2024 #25
Maybe think of it as "taking a break" - text her "Happy Birthday, hope you liked the card." TigressDem Jan 2024 #31
You are not obligated to communicate with them. onecaliberal Jan 2024 #26
Go back to the day before your cousin called MOMFUDSKI Jan 2024 #27
Deb I am so sorry for your pain. Hope22 Jan 2024 #28
You bring us joy. Nanuke Jan 2024 #30
I had to cut off bad treatment. LakeArenal Jan 2024 #32
I am going to use my birth vernacular here... OldBaldy1701E Jan 2024 #33
Deb XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #34
Please don't feel that way. We love you. I miss you in the Lounge.Sending you my love. debm55 Mar 2024 #35
Ty. Just had a screaming fight with my XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #36
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