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Ocelot II

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5. I'm so sorry you had and still have such terrible experiences

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Sun Dec 31, 2023, 11:30 PM

Dec 2023

with your family, but for your own sake you really need to get away from them. They're toxic and you don't owe them anything. Family are people who love you and care for you and don't treat you like crap; having the same DNA doesn't make them family if they're hurting you. Cut them off. Walk away. Your life will improve more than you can imagine. And get some therapy to help that process.

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My cousin has changed her story with me and I am so confused. After the initial call where she agreed with the sex abuse [View all] debm55 Dec 2023 OP

DEAR debm55, elleng Dec 2023 #1

Sending you love and hoping you can find the strength to cut off the whole family who is not worthy of you. MLAA Dec 2023 #2

I wish I had helpful words, or some kind of answers. Sending hugggggs. Please niyad Dec 2023 #3

I have a little different idea about family . Permanut Dec 2023 #4

I'm so sorry you had and still have such terrible experiences Ocelot II Dec 2023 #5

In a way that I want to hear the words, I love you from my mother' s mouth. This is strange but the only "love" I know debm55 Dec 2023 #11

Listen to your counselor. Let them help you accept the factt Ocelot II Jan 2024 #13

The answer to that is not in you. nocoincidences Jan 2024 #17

Sometimes, for no apparent reason, one child becomes the scapegoat Wicked Blue Jan 2024 #29

Somewhere, find a thought that makes you feel good, and sleep with that thought bucolic_frolic Dec 2023 #6

I am so sorry you are in such a hard place. 1WorldHope Dec 2023 #7

Oh Deb, please take care. yorkster Dec 2023 #8

debm55, you have been through a lot. Please don't give up. You have friends here spooky3 Dec 2023 #9

You are such a great person who gives many of us smiles. BoomaofBandM Dec 2023 #10

Free yourself democrank Dec 2023 #12

Dearest Deb, your family does not deserve you. I feel your cousin is very, very wrong. Ziggysmom Jan 2024 #14

DU loves you better nocoincidences Jan 2024 #15

dear Heart, Let self-preservation begin this minute WhiteTara Jan 2024 #16

From all you have told us about the abominable way... 3catwoman3 Jan 2024 #18

I'm sorry you are hurting cate94 Jan 2024 #19

When I was young, the poem Dan Jan 2024 #20

OMG Deb Duncanpup Jan 2024 #21

debm55, I may be misreading your post. . . UniqueUserName Jan 2024 #22

She did agree with me that my grandmother sexually abused us when we were taking baths. For that I am grateful. My debm55 Jan 2024 #23

You are not obligated to call your mother. UniqueUserName Jan 2024 #24

What if she calls me? This the Mother that let her son me a Pimple Faced Whore for three years. I got engaged, got debm55 Jan 2024 #25

Maybe think of it as "taking a break" - text her "Happy Birthday, hope you liked the card." TigressDem Jan 2024 #31

You are not obligated to communicate with them. onecaliberal Jan 2024 #26

Go back to the day before your cousin called MOMFUDSKI Jan 2024 #27

Deb I am so sorry for your pain. Hope22 Jan 2024 #28

You bring us joy. Nanuke Jan 2024 #30

I had to cut off bad treatment. LakeArenal Jan 2024 #32

I am going to use my birth vernacular here... OldBaldy1701E Jan 2024 #33

Deb XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #34

Please don't feel that way. We love you. I miss you in the Lounge.Sending you my love. debm55 Mar 2024 #35

Ty. Just had a screaming fight with my XanaDUer2 Mar 2024 #36